A Swoon-Worthy Love Story for the Ages!
REBBECA
Rebecca grew up in Sydney Australia the oldest of seven children. At eight, she gave her heart to Jesus. When Rebecca was just thirteen years old, she opened for Christian artist, Carman, in Australia. Her dad was a concert promoter, but when his career suffered a devastating blow, the family lost their home and life savings. They moved to America and started over while surviving on very little. The family took odd jobs to make ends meet with the boys’ raking leaves and she and her mom cleaning houses.
Every dollar earned went into the family’s cash stash. Meanwhile, her dad reached out to music executives in the Nashville area, and she began to audition for them. One executive, Eddie DeGarmo, asked her to sing at the People’s Church in Franklin, Tennessee.
After her performance, she signed her first development deal with ForeFront Records. For the next twenty years, she toured often doing interviews, songwriting, recording, and book writing at the same time. God did remarkable things during that time in her life, but the pace of her schedule was daunting.
She became a spokesperson for the True Love Waits movement and publicly shared with thousands of people the importance of honoring God in all areas of their life, including dating. As her career soared, Rebecca continued praying for the spouse she believed she would have one day but did not anticipate how long and painful this process would be.
As she entered her thirties, she was exhausted from singing about a guy who may or may not exist. At thirty, while on tour, Rebecca realized her voice could not be pushed anymore. Her friend extended an invitation to Rebecca to move to California with her. To give her body time to heal, Rebecca accepted her offer and moved to California. Little did she know, five miles away lived a Jesus loving bassist named Cubbie Fink who would become her future husband.
CUBBIE
Cubbie grew up in a Christian home, but he did not accept Jesus as His Savior until he was a teenager. To find peace, he looked to world religions and philosophy but came up empty. It wasn’t until his junior year of high school that he began attending his youth group. His youth pastor was patient with his questions about Jesus and consistently cared about him. At a worship conference later that year Cubbie finally gave his life to Jesus.
He struggled with depression which stemmed from his childhood. When he was five years old his family moved to Bakersfield, California. His childhood memories were vivid except for his time in Bakersfield. He still recalls the day police cars showed up and arrested his next-door neighbor. Cubbie had been to the neighbor’s house and even played with his daughter several times. However, his memories from those times were blocked. The trauma that took place in his neighbor’s house would plague him for years to come until he found healing.
A LOVE STORY
After high school, Cubbie went to South Africa to do missions work. He helped to build an orphanage for children affected by AIDS as well as teach in the local school. Cubbie stayed in South Africa for two years. He then attended Vanguard University in California, a school he applied at and had been accepted to before doing missions work, and pursued a degree in film. In 2009, after he graduated, God opened another opportunity outside of TV and film. He was asked to be the bassist for the band Foster the People. The band broke through in 2011 with Pumped Up Kicks, a hit that peaked at No. 3 on the Billboard Hot 100.
Despite all the excitement of being part of the band, Cubbie longed for someone to share his life with. However, finding a godly woman in LA was proving to be more and more unrealistic. Then one night at a wrap party for a TV series he had been working on he met Rebecca, a girl that his roommates had been talking to him about for months.
As she came into the room their eyes met, and it was magical. Cubbie invited Rebecca to a show the following week not expecting her to come, but she did. They started dating in 2010 and spent most of their time talking and watching movies. It was a season of rest which Rebecca needed after being burnt out from twenty years of doing music. Nine months after dating, Cubbie asked Rebecca to marry him on Christmas morning with a Hallmark style proposal. Rebecca said, “Yes!”
Although she loved Cubbie, she was still a little bit afraid to make such a huge commitment. She asked God to confirm this marriage for her and He gave her peace. On April 23, 2011, they were married in California. “For Cubbie and I both, God guarded our hearts and bodies by allowing us to grasp the concept of the sanctity of marriage and knowing that sex was reserved for our future spouse,” shares Rebecca.
WINTER SEASON
At thirty-five, Rebecca retired quietly from music in 2012 due to her ongoing vocal issues. She needed time to heal, and she wanted to start a family. Almost immediately, God allowed her and Cubbie to conceive. When their daughter Gemma was born, they were so excited. During this time, Cubbie was gone a lot with band life (eleven months of the first year of Gemma’s life). Rebecca was at home adjusting to a new baby’s feeding schedule and the challenges of motherhood.
When the tour for Foster the People ended in 2015, the band decided to move on without Cubbie. Tensions in the band had been rising, due to the rock and roll lifestyle and mindset which distorted and eroded the foundation of the band. Cubbie was in disbelief that they let him go. For the first time in decades, he did not know what was next.
His confidence and identity were shaken. He fell into a state a season of struggle with depression, so Rebecca encouraged him to see a counselor. During this time, he discovered a mental block in his childhood. He recalls, “I wanted to ignore the pain, but I could see how my actions and overreactions were affecting my wife and daughter. I had to find healing.”
Meanwhile, Rebecca was trying to be a mom and carry the weight of everything with Cubbie. She says, “Truthfully, I felt shocked and quite afraid.” Things were compounded when they decided to start trying for a baby after his departure from the band and she miscarried twice. They were both so exhausted and overwhelmed from their hurt and confusion that they hardly had anything to offer each other.
SPRING SEASON
In 2017, Rebecca said yes to a show on a cruise ship in Alaska. Both she and Cubbie thought it would be a good change of scenery after all the difficult years they had faced. Although she still had major vocal issues at the time, the performance went well. She also felt God prompting her to share with the audience about the hard struggles she and Cubbie had been going through over the past few years. As she allowed herself to be vulnerable, she felt something shift in her soul.
“I could see God’s light like I used to in my shows before pain and fear had overshadowed my ability to fully sense His nearness. God and I were again connected through music, and I felt His joy and pleasure in me as I continued to lead that room full of people in worship,” shares Rebecca. Afterwards, she felt God had called her back to music.
Her and Cubbie decided to move back to Tennessee where they started accepting offers for shows. Cubbie became the executive producer for her latest album Kingdom Come. Almost immediately following the cruise, Rebecca became pregnant again and had another daughter followed by a son two years later.
In 2024, Unsung Hero – a story about Rebecca’s family became a hit movie and received the Dove Award for Film of the Year. In the film, Rebecca played the part of an airline attendant. She would be on set for half a day then she would go home to take care of her kids and homeschool them. Cubbie was part of the producing and directing team for the movie. He watched the film usher in healing and redemption for Rebecca.
It was a special time for them both to work together and see their talents intertwine.
Over the past year, they are both more intentional about their emotional, mental, and spiritual health which has provided more freedom, peace, and joy for each of them. Together they are asking God to reveal, “What are healthy no’s, so we have space for our best yeses as a family.”
To find out more about Lasting Ever and The Finks click the Link! https://www.RebeccaStJames.com
CREDITS
REBECCA ST. JAMES: Co-author, latest, Lasting Ever, (David C. Cook, 2025); Grammy and Dove Award winning Christian recording artist with more than two million albums sold; Her latest album, Kingdom Come, Hosts a podcast called Practice Makes Parent with Focus on the Family; Rebecca and her family’s story along with her brothers – Grammy Award winning duo For King and Country was featured in the 2024 hit movie Unsung Hero; Married to Cubbie; Children: Gemma, Imogen, and River
CUBBIE FINK: Co-author, Lasting Ever, (David C. Cook, 2025); Executive producer on Rebecca’s most recent studio album, Kingdom Come; Part of the producing team and directing team of Unsung Hero, the 2024 hit movie which received the Dove Award for Feature Film of the Year; Former member of the multi-platinum Grammy-nominated indie-pop band Foster the People; Married to Rebecca; Children: Gemma, Imogen, and River
