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- Well it's time for your questions

and some honest answers.

Pat, this first one comesfrom Michael who says,

"Hi Pat.

"Why do these other countrieshate America so much?

"Aren't we a giving country?

"Haven't we given other countries help

"with money and services?

"I don't understand."

- Well, it's hard to understandpeople who are jealous.

If you're a dictator,mismanaging the country,

you're embarrassed of that fact

that there's a free country

that let's its peopledo what it wants to do

and gives them the opportunities

and it's prospering.

They're jealous.

And so, of course, they'rejealous of America.

They hate us.

But more than that it's spiritual.

Satan causes hatred of Israel.

How come people hate the Jews?

Well, because they're theexamples of God on Earth.

So a lot of people hate America,

because we stand for freedom.

We stand for liberty.

And these countries arejealous of us, bottom line.

- This is Jim, who says,

"How do I know if I've really forgiven?

"Is forgiveness a mental decision,

"or doe sit require that I feel compassion

"toward the offender?

"Cerebrally, I wish only good for him,

"but I still feel resentfulfor his good fortune

"and a coldness toward him.

"We have no contact.

"Have I not really forgiven?

"How do I get forgivenessto go from my head

"to my heart?"

- How you know that you've passed

from death into life

is you love the brethren.

So, if you have love for the brethren,

that's one evidence thatyou have been born again.

Now you're asking how doyou forgive an offender.

I have told people before

and I tell them over and over again,

stop focusing on the negative.

I don't want to hate him anymore.

Well that says I hate him andI'm talking about a negative.

What you wanna do is to say,

"God, I ask you to bless him.

"I ask you to bless him.

"I wanna be on the side of blessing."

And then suddenly yourthoughts are positive.

That's how you go toward an enemy.

But the Bible says,

"When you stand prey,

"if you have odd against any,

"forgive that your heavenlyFather might forgive you."

If you want miracles,

you have got to forgive those

that you hold a grudge against.

It's just that simple, alright.

- It's hard to pray someoneand hold a grudge against them

at the same. (laughs)- Yeah, exactly.

I mean, you're asking God to bless them.

So that's what you do.

Okay, what else?

- This is Bradley, who says,

"Hello, Pat.

"I'm holding a secret towards my wife.

"I'm a sinner who's beenvisiting a transsexual club

"for six months.

"My wife asks me where I'vebeen when I get home late,

"and I say I was just out with friends.

"Should I tell her the truth and seek help

"in our church, so I don't feel the need

"to go there anymore?

"I'm afraid that my wife will leave me.

"Please help me, Pat."

- The Bible talks about Jesus.

He made a show of them openly.

You're doing something as the secret sin.

Your secret sins in thelight of his countenance,

you cannot hold ontowhatever you're doing.

Apparently you have homosexual tendencies.

You're married and you say,

"I'm afraid my wife will leave you."

Well, maybe she should.

I mean, you have alreadybroken your marriage vows.

You're involved in the hidden relationship

that you shouldn't be in.

But I think, honestly,it's what you've gotta do.

So why would you wanna carry this burden

so many years,

which you don't have to gotell it to the whole world.

I mean, your wife deservesto know what you're doing,

'cause you've been lying to her.

So tell her the truth.

But if she leaves,

that's the price you ought to pay,

because you deserve it, okay?

- Does he go to his church with this,

or does he seek private--- Absolutely not.

I mean, why should you confessit to the whole church.

You haven't sinned against the church.

You've sinned againstyour wife and against God.

You confessed it to God

and confess it to your wife.

- [Terry] And get some counseling.

- And then get counseling,absolutely, yeah.

- This is Sharon, who says,

"Five years ago, I caused my divorce.

"My husband was 25 years older than me,

"47 and 22 when we met.

"He had children fromthree previous marriages,

"and we had no children together.

"I felt isolated andemotionally manipulated

"into being in the relationship.

"I have found God since my divorce.

"Would God want me to goback with my ex-husband?

"If so, I would sorrowfullyobey God's wish."

- Look, I'm not God,

so how I can I tellyou what God's wish is?

I don't think you ought to go back

to a situation.

And it sounds like you were manipulated.

We've got in law somethingcalled fraud in the inducement.

And if this fraud inducesyou to enter into a contract,

and the contract's not valid,

there's a huge disparity in age.

It sounds like you weretricked to get in it

to begin with,

and you already had other relationships.

I think what you gottado is just let them go

and begin to live your life in the Lord,

but whatever it is,

you've got a messed up situation (laughs)

as they say is it's realhard to unscramble eggs.

You start living for the life right now.