Searching for Connection in All the Wrong Places: Millennials Battle High Levels of Anxiety and Depression
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- [Caitlin] JordanFlores was in high school
when she first started to feel anxious.
She didn't like who she saw when
she looked in the mirror.
By college anxiety becamefull blown depression
fueled by what she saw on social media.
- I followed a lot of like health
at fitness accounts and through that
they just are constantly feeding you
what you're supposed to look like,
what you're supposed to be like,
how you're supposed to dress,
all of those different things,
what you're supposed to be eating.
And I let that kind ofcontrol my own lifestyle.
- [Caitlin] That resultedin an eating disorder.
- I hated myself at that point
and the moment I don't even recognize,
I wouldn't have beenable to recognize myself.
Physically I looked a little bit the same,
but I just, I wasn't happy,
I was not able to connect with people,
I had severe anxiety when it came to
even going out to dinner with people,
I wasn't able to do that anymore.
Every part of my life revolved
around my mental illness
and I was unable to actually see that.
- Millennials in Massachusetts
have the highest rate ofdepression in the entire U.S.,
specifically millennial women.
But why?
Neil Hubacker of theMassachusetts Family Institute
believes it's linked to how his state
has dealt with religion and the family.
- When we deconstructed things so much,
we've created a wholegeneration that wonders
who am I and whose amI and where am I going?
- [Caitlin] Hubacker also points out
that this depression is greatest
where many of the country's top
universities are located.
- It seems like in ourexaltation of the mind
or in our exaltationof the human, the self,
at the expense of notworshiping God anymore.
You know think of Romans 1
and what Paul describes in Romans 1,
in that I think that thereis something at work here.
There's something spiritual at play.
- [Caitlin] In dealingwith this challenge,
Boston area pastors also see generational
factors at play.
One is the desire or pressure to
achieve more than their peers.
While Pastor Adam Mabry seesit with his congregation,
he first saw it in himself.
- About late 2013, ourchurch was growing quickly.
We had a new baby thatwasn't sleeping well,
had a house that I was remodeling,
and a degree I was trying to finish
and up to that point I'd always been able
to just push past my problemswith more achievement,
put in a few more hoursand I get over them.
I was not able to push past those problems
and I sort of hit a wall
and went into a pretty deep depressive
state for a while.
- [Caitlin] Mabry knew he needed rest,
but realized he had tofirst learn that discipline.
That led him to write a book called
The Art of Rest.
- One of the things thatcame out of that experience
and one of the thingsthe Lord taught me was
that rest is how I experience joy in Him,
not just doing things for Him,
but stopping to be with Him.
- [Caitlin] Millennials need for success
is exacerbated by the ability to
follow their peers 24/7.
- Being able to see oneanother achieve things
and see one another do or not doing things
created this more intenseachievement arms race.
- [Caitlin] That's whereJordan Flores found herself.
- Society expects peopleto be a certain way
and so there was always that feeling of
I'm not good enough, I'm not good enough,
I need to be different,I need to change myself.
- [Caitlin] She was unable to break free
until turning to God.
- It wasn't until Iactually came to church
and I joined our young adult group
and I made connections with people
that really cared for me
and really wanted to see me healthier
that I started to actuallyhave change in my life.
- [Caitlin] Mabry saysthat's the church's strength.
Wading into the hard topics,the pain, and the mess.
- The Christian church should be
a hospital for sinners
and what unites us isn'tthat we're all great people
and we look great,
what unites us is that we're all
in desperate need ofGod's grace and mercy.
- [Caitlin] Jordan and her husband Marco
now lead the youth group at Metro Church
in Marlborough, Massachusetts.
She says her depression fight opened
a door to reach the upcoming generation,
70% of whom already say depression
and anxiety is a huge problem.
- We can't get rid of technology.
It is part of our life,
it is part of our world,
however community can help kind of
shape how we use our social media,
it can shape how weinteract with each other,
how we're using it,
and so I think that the key is
being around people that are just going
to be able to love on you
and show you life.
- [Caitlin] Caitlin Burke, CBN News,
Boston, Massachusetts.