- The deaths of GeorgeFloyd and Rayshard Brooks

have reignited conversations about racism,

unfairness and the relationship

between blacks and cops.

That's also the subject

of a more personal talkAfrican American parents

have had with their kids for years.

- My parents had it with me and my sister,

my husband's parents had it with him

and all of our friends.

We know than when you mention the talk,

you're referring to theconversation you have

about interacting with law enforcements.

- [Charlene] Sanya Whittaker Gragg

of Tulsa has since felt the need

to extend this talk to her sons.

- Make sure your hands are visible.

Don't put them in your pockets.

You can't reach for anything.

The key, the objective is for you

to come home alive.

- [Charlene] Gragg firstshared this message

when they were younger.

She recalled telling the boys

why they even neededto be cautious playing

with their water guns.

- We had to tell themthat they could only play

with their water guns in the backyard.

They couldn't play withthem in the front yard.

They could not leave our yard

and go to someone else'shouse with these water guns.

Because of the color of their skin,

they are not always going to be perceived

in a good light.

- [Charlene] Research from the

American Psychological Association

has shown that police are more likely

to mistake black boys, as young as 10,

as older and less innocent.

12-year-old Tamir Rice was shot and killed

by police in Ohio in 2014

when his toy gun wasmistaken for a real one.

Dr. Tony Evans of Dallas'Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship

is also using these latest shootings

as lessons for the nextgeneration of young black men.

- I just wanted my grandsons

and reminding my sons too,

that because their propensity is there,

you have the responsibilityto do everything you can

to deescalate a situation

because you never knowwhen it can go left.

- [Charlene] He shared aboutbeing racially profiled

as a teenager.

- I was driving in white neighborhood

and they wanted to know why I was there

and what right had to be there.

They pulled me over, held me for an hour.

And it was just becauseof the color of my skin.

- [Charlene] Pastor Darrell Scott

of Cleveland, Ohio recently spoke

on Capitol Hill about the need

for law enforcement to end this profiling,

along with excessive force.

Scott also enlightened Congress

on the reasons behind the talk.

- I can testify I've given my grandson,

who is now of driving age, the talk

of how to properly behave

if pulled over by police

because he had the questionof a very real fear

of the possibility of death

at the hands of police.

In fact, my very firstinteraction with police

when I was 13 years old resulted

in me being roughed up.

- [Charlene] Thatsentiment motivated Gragg

to write "Momma, Did You Hear the News?"

an effort to help more blackparents facilitate the talk

with their kids.

In it, she outlines five practical steps,

using the phrase ALIVE

to guide young black youth

through their interactionswith law enforcement.

Meanwhile, Evans believes parents

should not only talk aboutpossible mistreatment

by police but also raise theirchildren to be respectful,

law-abiding citizens.

- We need to make sure we'reraising the right kind of boys.

We're raising boys who have dignity.

We're raising boys whohave a spiritual worldview.

We're raising boys to respect authority.

We're raising boys who arenot adding to the problem.

- [Charlene] The church, he says,

should help guide that conversation.

- Well, the church could bring its men

and gather all the boys together

and say we wanna have thecollective talk with you.

And therefore, we cando that and be a impetus

to support the single parents

where they need to see a man.

- [Charlene] Meanwhile,Gragg is quick to point out

that not all cops are bad.

- I know that our policeofficers have a really tough job.

They're moms and dads too.

They want to get home safely.

And I even say we prayfor those who wear blue.

- [Charlene] Even as she praysfor her sons and many others.

- I pray not only for protection over them

but I pray that they have discernment

to make your decisions

and make your choices.

It's a constant prayer.

- [Charlene] Charlene Aaron, CBN News.