The Founder of Auntie Anne's Pretzels, Anne Beiler, shares about the death of her 19-month old daughter in her recent book The Secret Lies Within.
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- [Gordon] 11 millionAmericans are mentally ill
and living on the streets.
- That's just a sin if you ask me.
- [Gordon] And it's only getting worse.
Plus, she lost her
19-month-old daughterin a farming accident.
- She saw Angie in front
of the Bobcat.
She was killed instantly that morning.
- [Gordon] The founder ofAuntie Anne's pretzels,
Anne Beiler.
All that and more on today's700 Club Interactive.
Well welcome to the show.
Three years after Los Angeles voters
approved a $1.2 billion bond program
to build housing units for the homeless,
an audit found that no units
had been made available thus far.
With only 19 projects under construction,
and only two to be completed
by the end of this year.
- Los Angeles and many other cities
across the United states are struggling
with the homeless,
many suffering from schizophrenia,
bipolar disorder, and suicidal depression.
What created this crisis?
And what's the key to turning it around?
Take a look.
- [Lorie] Today's homeless crisis
can possibly be tracedback to the last bill
signed by President John F. Kennedy.
In 1963, the Community Mental Health Act
closed America's insane asylums.
While this law helped transformthe often barbaric treatment
of the mentally ill,
it's also led to unforeseen problems.
- Yeah, well the road to hellis paved with good intentions,
and I think that's a greatexample, de-institutionalization.
- [Lorie] PsychiatristKenneth Rosenberg says
the sad consequence ispeople with those same issues
often go untreated today.
- That's just a sin, if you ask me.
And that's something thatwe really have to correct.
- About 11 millionAmericans have a serious
mental illness, such as schizophrenia,
bipolar disorder, suicidal depression
or severe PTSD,
which can render themutterly dysfunctional.
In his book Bedlam,
an intimate journey intoAmerica's Mental Health Crisis,
the author and filmmaker says
these people ping pong between the street
and a jail cell.
- Los Angeles is the epicenter
of this crisis.
The largest mentalinstitution in this country
is the LA County Jail.
The largest collection of people outside
is in Skid Row.
Skid Row is kind of like a day hospital,
if you will, for peoplewith serious mental illness.
- [Lorie] Add to thisequation an estimated
eight out of 10 peopleliving on the streets
struggle with addiction.
For the mentally ill,
that's like pouring gasoline on a fire.
- You know there are factors
that can bring a mental illness out
of the woodwork, opena window, if you will,
on serious mental illness thatwould otherwise be closed.
What are those factors?
Poverty, trauma, going to jail.
Unfortunately most of the mentally ill
end up in jail nowadays.
And above all else,
substance abuse.
- [Lorie] Although this perfectstorm may seem hopeless,
Dr. Rosenberg offers concrete solutions,
starting with community treatment centers.
- These are terrible diseases,
but people can get better.
They may not be curable,
but they are very treatable.
- [Lorie] Also expanding the number
of mental health courts.
- We can mandate treatment for people
who are too sick toknow that they need it.
- [Lorie] And developingdrugs that work better,
with fewer side effects.
- The medicines we're using forserious mental illness today
are 70 years old.
I think that's absolutely terrible.
God forbid you have breast cancer,
God forbid you have colon cancer,
you're gonna get a treatment
that's two or three years old,
not one that's 70 years old.
- For family and friends
of someone going through this,
Dr. Rosenberg says eating healthy,
lowering stress, sleeping well,
minimizing drug use where possible,
and feeling connected all help minimize
mental illness.
Doctors say psychotic illness typically
comes on between ages 17 and 21,
and the longer the brain goes untreated
the worse it becomes.
So early intervention is key.
- And there are people in your community,
in your church, in your synagogue
who could help you think this through.
The clergy are very proficient
in understanding how to deal with this,
how to send you to theproper healthcare providers,
people who will beconsistent with your own
spiritual practices.
- [Lorie] So while Americagrapples with issues
both past and present in treating
the mentally ill,
there's still hope by making it a priority
and using a variety of treatments.
Lorie Johnson, CBN News.
- Well it's certainly a difficult problem,
but our major cities,particularly on the West Coast,
are dealing with this on a daily basis.
And you look at whether it's Seattle
or Portland or Los Angeles,
you're looking at major populations
of the homeless.
And how do we deal with this?
How do we deal with this effectively?
- Well you know therehave been for decades
and beyond people who have been homeless
and living on the street.
But now it's like, it'slike a city within a city
is rising up,
and it's not good.
The repercussions that are yet to be felt.
- Yeah and we need to understand
the cost of caring for these individuals,
whether that's in the emergency room
or by the police force
and in our prisons is actually greater
than the cost of let's putin some housing for them,
let's have medical supervision
as part of that.
And how do we as a culture,
as a society solve it?
But we need to solve itbecause it's out of control.
Well coming up,
from college athlete to homeless addict.
- [Jacob] It wasdestroying me as a person,
it became too much.
- See the wake up call he never imagined,
when we come back.
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Jacob blew his chance at college,
drugs stripped him of his scholarship,
and before long Jacobwound up a homeless addict,
hiding in a shed in his parent's backyard.
- I had to strive to try toget attention from my parents,
and try to be the best one in the family.
So a lot of my identity growing up
was based off of my abilityto perform in sports
and to be the best person,
to be the best athlete I could.
- [Man] Jacob Luggage was the youngest
of four children.
He grew up in a competitive environment,
and his Catholic upbringingshaped his view of God.
- I would say that I wasa very religious person,
so I felt like that I had to be
the best person that Icould possibly all the time
so that way I would gain God's approval
and gain God's attention
and gain his love.
- [Man] Attending a private school
with his three older siblings
provided Jacob an early opportunity
to join the party scene.
- My need for attention
and my need to stand out all the time
transitioned right into the party life,
and that became the next way
that I was getting attention from people
was just partying as much as I could.
- [Man] Jacob gained popularity
and he still excelledin sports and school.
His appearance on the outside however
was in direct opposition
to what he was feeling on the inside.
- The more popularity you get,
the more that you need.
The more drugs that I used,
the more drugs that I actually needed
to try to fill that void.
And I constantly tried to be something
that be somebody that I wasn't.
And so as I tried to gain that love
and attention
and fill that void in my life,
I continuously lost myself
even more and more in that process.
- [Man] Jacob's performance in sports
landed him a golf scholarship
to a nearby college.
- I knew that at the college golf level
that I was gonna have drug tests,
and it was gonna be much more stricter
on my behavior and the partying.
So I actually did really wellfor the first couple months,
and I was giving a really good effort
to try to be better
and try to take advantage
of the opportunity to go to college.
- [Man] Despite hisefforts Jacob got drunk
at a party and used marijuana.
- I very much remembersitting in my dorm room
that afternoon, having to call my parents
and tell them that I had just
failed a drug test incollege for smoking weed,
knowing that they weren't able to send
their other kids to college,
and Knowing that it was such a blessing
and such a privilegefor me to go to college.
And that was a reallY, really hard moment
for me to do that.
- [Man] His drug and alcohol use
cost him two college scholarships.
He left school and pursuedmixed martial arts fighting,
where he again foundsuccess and attention.
- I had a lot of recognition
for being a fighter,
and that was my identity.
And it helped fill that void
for the need for attention all the time.
And it helped fill that void in my heart.
But there was still,
I can remember many nights,
even after winning a fight
and being successful the waythat I thought I should be
and doing the thingsthat I thought I should,
many restless nights lying in bed
of just that feeling of hopelessness
and that feeling of depression,
and not knowing why I felt that way.
- [Man] Jacob's introductionto pain medication
began legally with prescriptions
for numerous injuries and surgeries.
But it soon took over his life.
- I was physically verymuch addicted to it,
but also mentally addicted to it as well.
All that feeling of depression
and fear and anxiety that have developed
throughout my life,
it would relieve those feelings.
And whenever I was doing pain medicine
I felt like I was invincible.
And I wasn't fearful,
and I wasn't depressed,
and I wasn't scared.
- [Man] As the drug use escalated,
Jacob lost his job and his home.
He moved in with his drug dealer
and started working for him.
- I had gotten down to about 119 pounds,
which is really, really skinny.
I was really physicallyin a bad spot there.
It was destroying me asa person on the inside
to where the fear and the pressure,
everything in life,
it became too much.
I no longer could handle it,
even despite the pain medicine.
- [Man] After being awakefor two weeks straight,
Jacob sneaked into his parents' shed
and slept there for three days.
When his parents discovered him
they took him to Home of Grace,
a Christian based recovery program.
Jacob was still going through withdrawals
from drugs when he experienced
his first taste of God's love.
- I got woke up one afternoon
and there was about 30 guys
had come into my room,
30 other clients and a couple
of the staff members,
they had all gathered in my room
and they all started tolay their hands on me
and began to pray for me.
And that was a very profound moment for me
because I couldn't understand
why all of these people were in my room.
I was in the lowest ofthe low point of my life
at that point,
and I had nothing to offer.
- [Man] He began his journey to freedom
with loving Christians
who showed him who Jesus is.
It all clicked one night in chapel.
- The pastor that was there preaching,
he gave an alter callafter he did his sermon
and I knew that I needed to get up
from my seat that night
and make my way to the alter.
And I needed to get down on my knees
and give my life to Christ.
And that's exactly what I did.
And I got up,
and I barely made my way up there.
I was still physically sick.
And I got down on my knees,
and I hit my knees,
and I just told God that,
God, if you can use my life, use it.
I'm done.
I am defeated.
I knew that God had savedmy soul in that moment.
And I knew that I no longerhad to fight anymore.
I didn't have to fight to gain the love
and gain attention from God,
that God just loved mefor the person that I was.
- [Man] Jacob's life changed quickly.
After completing time atHeartland Men's Recovery Program,
he went on to get hisdegree in biblical studies.
He now preaches at recoverycenters across the country,
and spreads his hope inJesus wherever he can.
- I get to live and haveabundant life today,
being a true follower of Jesus.
And Jesus is to me the perfect example
of how we are to live our lives.
How we are to humbly lay downour lives every single day.
My goal and desire is tobe an effective participant
in the church of God.
And that's given me the blessing
and the privileged to be able to speak
and preach all over the United States
at different recovery centers
to men and women that are going through
the same things that I was going through,
and to really show themthat there's a hope
and there's a future,
and that God wants to do the same thing
in their life that Godhas done in my life.
- And he wants to do thesame thing in your life.
All you have to do is dothe same thing Jacob did.
Here he is in the middle of despair,
he's gotten to the lowest of the low.
He's down to 119 pounds.
He's living in a shed.
And he said Lord here's my life.
If you can do anything with it,
I'm yours.
I'm done.
I turn it all over to you.
That's the complete surrenderthat God is waiting for
from all of us.
To say not my will be done,
but your will be done.
When you get to that point
of surrender, saying LordI need you to take over
'cause I can't do this.
I don't have the will power.
I don't have the means.
I can't, but I know you can.
And I trust you.
Here's my life.
If there's anything you can do,
would you take it?
Could you change me?
Could you remake me?
If you prayed that with all of your heart,
that's what Jacob did,
he did it with all of his heart.
I'm done.
You can do this.
If you do that, you'll get thesame answer that Jacob did.
And you see the transformation,
it's nothing short of miraculous.
To go from hopeless addiction
to a hope and a future,
and a destiny.
And that destiny is you can go out
and help other people.
What an amazing thing.
God takes you,
he saves you so that you can save others.
You can help others.
If you want this,
if you wanna hope,
if you want a future,
if you want a new life,
all you have to do is thesame thing that Jacob did.
Pray a very simple prayer,
and let God have control of your life.
Pray with me.
Jesus, that's right sayhis name, say it out loud.
Jesus, I come to you
and I lay down my life.
If you can do anything with me,
I want you to.
I give it to you
and I trust you with my life
and with my future.
Forgive me of the thingsthat I've done wrong.
Set me free from these compulsions.
Release me Lord God.
And if you do this I will follow you
all the days of my life.
Hear my prayer for I prayit in Jesus' name, amen.
Father, for those who just prayed,
I ask for deliverance from any addiction.
Set them free.
Set the captive free.
For we ask it in Jesus' name, amen.
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Terry.
- Well still to come,
she's famous for her soft,hand rolled pretzels,
but nobody knew what Auntie Anne
endured before all her success.
Hear the secret lie she held within.
You don't wanna miss her story.
She's here live next,
so stay with us.
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Auntie Anne became famous forher mouth-watering pretzels,
yet the secrets she kept hidden away
were slowly killing herfrom the inside out.
Take a look.
- [Man] Anne Beiler, creatorof the famous Auntie Anne's
pretzel franchise,
is known for her success,
yet what many don'tknow is the devastation
she endured before it,
when her 19-moth-olddaughter Angie was killed.
- My sister was driving a Bobcat
and hauling sand.
And as she was doing that
she didn't see Angie that morning.
And when she turned theBobcat to go forward
she saw Angie in front of the Bobcat.
She was killed instantly that morning.
- [Man] In her bookThe Secret Lies Within,
Anne recounts her story of loss,
the years of sexual abuse she endured
at the hands of her pastor,
and how the power of confession
saved her life.
- With me now is Anne Beiler.
It is so wonderful to have you here.
- Thank you, Terry, I'mdelighted to be with you.
- You grew up in a loving family,
but a family where,
and a culture within the context
of your family and your community,
where emotions weren't overt.
I mean you didn't really talk about
what was going on in your heart.
You kind of just put on yourboots and dealt with it.
- You just kind of get over it.
You know I don't remember ever coming home
from school and telling my mom
that somebody was unkind to me.
We just didn't talk about those things.
On the flip side of that was
as a family of 10,
we talked about a lot of things
because around the dinner table at night
it was like craziness and fun.
So somehow we missed outon this really talking
about things that bothered us,
and we pretty much just kind
of sucked it in
and just kind of get over it.
- And that is kind of theway of the Amish/Mennonite
community so it felt normal.
- It was very normal.
- I mean nobody was doing it, right?
- Absolutely.
- So now you marry your husband,
you become youth pastors,
and everything is going great,
and then there's a tragedy
pretty early on in your marriage.
Tell us what happened.
- Yeah, you know Terry I grew up
wanting to be a good girl.
I wanted mom and dad to,
I wanted to please my mom and dad,
and I wanted to please God.
And so I really wasn'tprepared for tragedy.
And September the 8th, 1975,
that's a long time ago,
but I remember every detaillike it was yesterday.
And so when Angela walked out
of my front door
of my little double wide trailer
and was walking up to my mom's house
for her second breakfast,
which she did every morning,
I watched her walk away.
And just turned around
and I thought well I'll call mom
and tell her she's on her way.
And we lived out in the country so it was.
- [Terry] Safe.
- Private.
Yes.
And when I reached for the phone
I heard all the crazy screaming.
And it was like immediately I knew,
my heart knew that Angie was gone.
I just had that (mumbles).
- She had been hit,
run over really by a farm vehicle.
- Correct.
Yeah, my sister was driving a Bobcat
and hauling sand for my dad,
and didn't see Angie that morning
until she turned the Bobcat around.
- So here you are not having learned
how to express emotion openly,
and now you suffer probably
one of the most traumaticthings a parent can suffer,
a mother can suffer,the loss of your child.
How did you deal with that?
- Not very well.
I just did what I always did,
and Jonas and I,
we talked about the accident.
We would talk about what happened that day
but we really weren't able to verbalize
how we felt.
I would never have said to him
I'm really sad today.
There were days I know that we would say
I miss Angie today,
butt here was never any feeling words
to really describe thedepth of our feeling.
So we, over time, just,
the great wall of China was built.
It was firmly in place
and there was really no connection.
- So your pastor offered to come
and help you walk through this.
And what happened there?
- Yeah and we were living
in a time in our lives
where we were spiritually,
we were very relationshipwith Christ was just
foremost in our hearts
and walking this journey with God
that was unbelievable relationship
versus religion.
And in this place it wasa very vibrant church
and everybody loved the pastor.
And when I went to see him
I was actually able totalk about my feelings.
It was amazing.
And before I left his office
he took advantage of me that morning,
and I decided right at the moment
that this would be my secret
that I would keep forever.
What I didn't realize was that secret
was beginning to holdme hostage even then,
and kept me in a sevenyear long relationship.
- Usually the perpetratorof something like that
knows that there's a reason
people won't out them.
- Absolutely.
- You went through years of abuse,
what made you actually come forward?
- I was sick and tiredof being sick and tired.
I weight 98 pounds
and was falling apart from the inside out.
Was unhealthy and was a terrible mother.
I was emotionally absent from my kids.
I was in the house,
but emotionally absent.
And I don't know, my desperation,
just, I didn't know what to do.
And believing all the time
that I was certainly unforgivable,
unlovable and unchangeable.
But I had the courage one day
to get up off my knees
and confess to my husband,
which was the bravest thing
that I'd ever done in my entire life
up to that point.
And took so much courageand just plain out guts
because I did not want to tell anyone.
- But it was the beginningof healing really.
It was a small window that began to open.
But it was the only light in the darkness
that you lived in emotionally.
It took a lot of courage to do that.
You say there are threekinds of confessions
that are significant in ourbeginning the healing process.
Share those.
- Absolutely.
I learned that bedside prayers
is always a safe place.
And we do that in our pain.
And it's the right thing to do.
And Jesus always hears us.
I stayed on my knees for seven years
and begged him to deliver me.
The second type of confession
is found in journaling,
like David did in Psalms,
and we love him because he was so real
and raw and honest.
And that really is a therapeutic,
is very good to be able to do that.
It helps you through,
but the one to another confession
found in James 5:16 is the power.
And that's what I began to live.
- One of the things that I think happens
when you do that is when there's a secret
and you think nobody knows it,
you feel safe from the secret,
but the shame that comes with all of that,
just builds and builds and builds.
How did telling someone face to face,
your Jonas was the beginning to that,
your husband,
how did that break the bondage of shame?
- You know I don't understand the power
of confession,
but I'm telling you it works.
And the morning that I told my husband
there was something thathappened to me inside,
there was a spark of hope inside of me
that I hadn't felt in years and years.
I didn't think that was even possible.
But as I was able to just be real
and raw and honest with my husband.
That confession changedthe trajectory of my life.
And it's really found in John.
He talks about bring yourdeeds into the light.
If you walk in the light,
as he is in the light,
then you will havefellowship one with another.
And then the blood of JesusChrist cleanses us from all sin.
It's all about bringingour deeds into the light.
And that broke the power of my secret.
- The power of the enemy.
- Amen.
- Fear and shame.
- Absolutely.
- Holds many, many of us there.
Don't let that happen to you.
If you're struggling withissues in your own life
and you feel shame or guilt,
get it out in the open,
it's the beginning of healing.
Learn more from Anne.
Her book is called The Secret Lies Within
An Inside Out Look at Overcoming Trauma
and Finding Purpose in the Pain.
It's available in stores nationwide.
Anne, thank you for sharing your story.
- My great pleasure, Terry,
thank you.
- Thank you.
And thank you for joining us today.
Here's a scripture we'dlike to leave you with.
It's Psalm 86:5.
For you, Lord, are good,
and ready to forgive,
and abundant in mercy
to all those who call up you.
Thanks for being with us.
God bless you today.
We'll see you again tomorrow.