Grammy-winning country music star Rory Feek looks back on his life and career with his wife Joey.
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TERRY MEEUWSEN: Together,
Rory and Joey Feek
released seven studio
albums, earned a Grammy,
collaborated with some of the
biggest names in country music,
and along the way they showed
the world the power of love
through adversity.
REPORTER: In 2013, country
music songwriter Rory Feek
and his wife Joey shot a music
video for a song they loved,
called "When I'm Gone."
In the video, they painted
a picture of a world
where Joey passes away
and Rory is alone.
They had no idea that storyline
would come true in real life.
In 2014, after giving
birth to their daughter,
Joey was diagnosed
with cervical cancer.
Two years later doctors
weren't giving them
much hope for her survival.
In his book This Life I Live,
Rory shares their love story
that touched millions
along the way,
and how his greatest
joy and greatest pain
are wrapped up in one
terrible, beautiful thing.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: Well,
Rory Feek is with us now.
And we welcome you to the show.
RORY FEEK: Thank you.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: I want to
talk about your book and about
your story, and about Joey.
And it's been a
little over a year
now since she went
to be with Jesus.
But how did you meet?
What was the beginning for you?
RORY FEEK: She met
me before I met her.
She was at a songwriter's
night at the Bluebird
Cafe in Nashville, and
she saw me performing.
I didn't know it at the
time, but she had sort of
had this feeling,
this moment, where
she knew that we were going
to spend the rest of our lives
together.
Now, we didn't meet for
two years after that.
But one of the first things
she ever said was that.
She said, "We're going to
spend the rest of our lives
together."
TERRY MEEUWSEN: That had to be
a little startling, because she
kind of laid that on you.
RORY FEEK: I was used to trying
to chase someone like that.
I'm in overalls.
So that's proof there was a God.
So yeah, it was amazing.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: What did
you love the most about her?
I know there were many things.
But if you had to choose
a quality about Joey
that was just
extraordinary for you.
RORY FEEK: Well, she
was very beautiful.
But the person inside was
10 times more beautiful
than on the outside.
There's a lot of
good folks out there,
but she was incredibly
special, all the way through.
From the beginning I met
her until the very end,
she was also rock solid.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: She
had a life in her,
it seemed, that just sparkled.
I read your book.
It was really Joey who got
you involved in social media,
in the beginning, right?
She wanted you to write a blog
about life as you all knew it?
RORY FEEK: Sort of, yeah.
I was always trying
to champion her
and she was always
championing me.
And so when we took
a year off from music
because we were
going to have a baby,
she encouraged me to
start writing a blog,
since I wasn't writing
songs or anything.
And so I don't even think
she knew what a blog was.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: But she
wanted you to write one.
RORY FEEK: She knew that I
wanted to document this story.
I believed God was going
to give us a great story.
She believed that too, and
we were going to capture it.
TERRY MEEUWSEN:
Boy, he really did.
And it was through social
media that people really
followed your battle
with cancer together.
And that people were so
touched and so moved by that.
How did Joey's faith
impact you and your faith?
RORY FEEK: When I met Joey,
I was at the beginning
of growing a faith.
I tell people I wanted to be
with an extraordinary woman,
but it turned out I needed to be
an extraordinary man before He
would give me one.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: Oh that we
would all understand that.
RORY FEEK: It took a
long, long, long time.
And so when she
came into my life,
she just continued to inspire
me every day by her choices.
Most of them were less,
you know what I mean?
She knew how to cut
through all the noise.
And she knew what mattered.
And it helped me
understand what mattered.
And also, of course, all the
way through to the very end,
for her to have
the faith she had
when our dreams are coming
true, and music is doing
so well, that's one thing.
But then when you have
all of those tragedies,
and you still have the
same faith, maybe stronger,
that's a different thing.
So it was hard not to
be inspired by her.
TERRY MEEUWSEN:
Talk a little bit
about the video that you
all did, "When I'm Gone,"
because it really
became almost prophetic.
You say life imitating art, but
talk about how that happened.
RORY FEEK: My wife
had a friend who
wrote a song that we recorded--
named Sandy Lawrence-- called
"When I'm Gone" about a
man whose wife passed away
and he was left without her.
And we recorded the song.
It was very special.
And we ended up making a
music video at our farm.
And although I was
nervous about doing it,
it was reimagining as if
as if Joey wasn't with me,
and I was having to
go on without her.
And so we made a
music video that
came true about two years
later, every word of it.
The only difference is
rather than being left alone
at the farm, I had
a two-year-old.
I have a three-year-old now.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: You have
a three-year-old now,
who is absolutely precious.
And I know it was such a, not a
surprise in your life, exactly,
but Joey for a long time
didn't want children.
And so here you wind up with
this beautiful little girl.
How did she change your lives?
RORY FEEK: Well when I met
Joey, she loved God so much.
But there was one
thing that she was not
going to give Him control over,
and that was having a baby.
She trusted Him with
everything except for that.
And I had a feeling
that was going
to be the one thing He wanted.
And in the end,
she did trust him.
God had been so good
to her and to us.
You just said, "I can't
hold anything from Him."
And so, we had a baby.
And then the baby, of course
she has Down syndrome.
And so she became a different
baby than we thought.
But what happened was
what was absolutely
her greatest terrifying
fear was her biggest joy.
I mean, biggest joy.
I mean to the very end.
It's unimaginable if
she had passed away
and not got to experience that.
What a gift, in spite of--
I wish she could have--
I wish she were
here talking to you.
That would be even better.
But she did get to experience
something so special.
TERRY MEEUWSEN:
In such a picture
of how well God
knows us, we think
we know ourselves and we hang
on to things that we don't want
to do so tightly, or
that we want to do
and don't release to
Him, when all along He
knows the joy it will bring.
I mean, it's so
interesting, isn't it?
RORY FEEK: It's amazing.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: What do you
want people to take away
from the story of you and
Joey, and now Indiana,
who is part of her legacy?
RORY FEEK: Joey
and I believed, we
believed that God would
give us a great story.
And as the book shares,
it's been an amazing story.
It's a great story,
still, but I think
because I've had such a long
journey to get to this seat
next to you, and the
altar next to her,
that it's possible for anybody.
That would be an
encouraging thing
if people could say this
isn't just some perfect story.
It's something
everybody could have.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: It's
the story of your--
I mean the aptly titled
This Life I Live--
but it's the story
of your process
to getting where you are today.
And you share it so
candidly and so sincerely.
You're a really good
writer, not just of songs.
RORY FEEK: Thank you,
I appreciate that.
TERRY MEEUWSEN:
I hope this won't
be your last book, because I
think you have much to say.
And you write it in a way
that people can grab hold of
and ingest and go somewhere.
What's the future for you?
RORY FEEK: I'd like to
write some more books.
I'm kind of working
on some of that.
And then, it's been a
year and a few months.
I'm just I'm taking
it one day at a time
mostly, concentrating on
trying to be a better father
each day and a better friend.
And then also,
creatively, what does God
have in store for me,
musically or whatever?
I don't know.
I'm in no rush.
It'll reveal itself.
He'll let me know.
TERRY MEEUWSEN:
You know, time is
something we're all trapped in.
But you seem to
have mastered being
able to make it work for you.
And it's just an amazing story.
The subtitle, "One Man's
Extraordinary Ordinary Life
and the Woman Who Changed
It Forever," But it's
filled with all kinds
of truth and inspiration
and challenge for all of us
about how to take what God's
given us and live it well.
If you'd like to hear more
about Rory and Joey's story,
get this new book.
It's called This Life I Live.
It's available in
stores nationwide
and I think you will
really enjoy it.
Thanks for being with us today.
RORY FEEK: Thanks
for having me here.