Rory Feek reflects on life without his wife in his latest book, Once Upon A Farm.
Read Transcript
(guitar strums)
- [Host] Country singer,song writer, Rory Feek,
loves life on the farm.
In this idyllic setting, he'sraising his four-year-old
daughter, writing, performingagain, and preparing
a one-room schoolhouse forhis little girl and others.
In his latest book, Once Upona Farm, Rory reflects on life
without his beloved wifeand singing partner, Joey,
who died of cervical cancer in 2016.
- Once Upon a Farm, Lessonsin Growing in Love, Life,
and Hope on a New Frontier.
The new frontier iswhere you're going now,
where you are now?
- Yeah, the new frontier for me is,
sort of life going on without Joey.
- Yeah, you're a song writer,
but you haven't been writing songs.
- [Rory] True.
- Why?
- Well, I just haven't reallyhad any desire to write songs
in a number of years.
I've been writing books, andI've been writing a blog,
and that's actually filledme, you know, creatively,
I feel like even writingthese stories in a blog
or chapters in a book, itfeels like songwriting.
- [Host] You afraid of it?
- No, I've just been doinga bunch of other things.
(laughs)
So I haven't had time, and I actually,
I just haven't had any real interest
in writing songs these days.
I might down the road.
- [Host] We talked in thegarage that the Feek's had
turned into a recording studioand concert hall years ago.
When Joey got sick, Rorystopped singing and performing
for a couple of years.
In the fall of 2017,he decided it was time
to get back on the stage.
You've come back to singing alone,
and with your daughter, Heidi.
Is that a strange experience for you now?
- It is, it's a littlestrange, but it's also familiar
at the same time.
I didn't have to go farto start singing again,
just walk across thedriveway and it's right here.
This was the last placethat we sang together
in the fall of 2015,
and so the fall of 2017,
I decided to get back on stage again.
It was surreal in one way,because I'm just used to being
on the stage with Joey.
But in another way, it was very familiar.
It was almost like we steppedoff the stage yesterday,
and now I'm stepping back in.
Your fingers knew what toplay, even after two years.
Your mind knew the lyrics of the songs,
and it just felt really comfortable.
So I've just continued doing it.
So we do one weekend a month here.
Next weekend there'll be300 people here on Friday
and Saturday nights, and we'llbe on stage tellin' stories
and singing songs.
- [Host] Before meetingJoey, Rory was a divorced,
single dad, raising Heidiand her sister, Hopie.
Parenting alone for thesecond time, he says he hopes
to do a better job.
- I feel like I didn'ttrain them that well.
I had a lot of my own lifethat I was living out in front
of them, making a lot ofmistakes in front of them,
and they watched them.
And so, I was 33 really beforeI started turning my life
over to Christ, and reallytrying to be a different man.
- [Host] After 12 yearsof marriage, Rory and Joey
had their only child, Indiana.
I wanted to ask you about her name.
Where did the name Indiana come from?
- Indiana is from my wife,she was born and raised
in Alexandria, Indiana,home of Bill Gaither.
When we had the baby, wewanted to name her Indiana,
and we call her Indy most of the time.
- And she is a Down's Syndrome child?
- Yes, she is.
She doesn't know she is, but she is.
She just has really pretty eyes.
- Now you're doing this without your wife.
A dad all on your own.
That's pretty challenging stuff.
- It is challenging, but Iwas a dad on my own before.
One of the things that
was particularly tough was when
we found out that allthe chemo and surgeries
and the radiation wasn't working,
and it looked like thingswere not gonna go well,
and we had come back home and we decided
to discontinue treatment.
We were in the back, behindthe house, on the back deck,
and Joey was really upset,but she wasn't upset because
it looked like she wasn'tgonna be here when the baby's
growing up and be herewith me, she was upset
because I was going tobe a single father again.
That was tough, but I toldher, I said, I'm perfect.
I already know how to do it.
I was a single dad for 12 years.
You know, I'd like to thinkI'm a better father now
than I was then, trying to be.
It is a challenge, butit just feels like life.
You know what I mean?
It's lonelier because Iwish that we could share
in every beautiful, amazingmoment with the baby.
But it's okay.
- [Host] As he travels thisnew frontier in his life,
Rory rests in the fact thathe will never really be alone.
- [Rory] My belief in God isjust as strong or stronger
through what's happenedand also the belief
that I don't know what tomorrowholds, but I still believe
He's still giving us a great story.
- [Host] When Joey died, fans sent Rory
their condolences throughcards, letters, and money.
He decided to use it tobuild a one-room schoolhouse
on his farm for Indy and other children.
- And so we took that $100thousand, we got a bunch
of people in the community together.
We had an old-fashioned barnraising, only it wasn't a barn,
it was a schoolhouse.
So that's pretty amazing.
Now the plan is, Indy'sgonna go to school.
It's gonna be a pre-school the first year,
so there'll be a dozenlittle ones in there.
- [Host] Special needs kids?
No, or just any--
- Yeah, just any kids.
Some might have specialneeds, some might not.
But it's not a special needs school.
And then hopefully nextyear, when Indy's school age,
it'll be multi-age, soit'll be much more like
a one-room schoolhousefrom a hundred years ago.
- [Host] Rory says theproject isn't only about
his family, it's about bringingthe community together.
- I can also be part of my blessing,
I want to be other people's blessings.
- Yeah, a shared life, right?
- Yeah, yeah, life is way better shared.
It is.