Two car accidents left Latau with severe brain damage. After her family prayed for healing, she has recovered and is now a lawyer.
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- Well, the UnitedNations group responsible
for overseeing educationfor Palestinian refugees
recently said it had removed violent
and anti-Israel content from school texts.
- A new investigation questionsthat so-called resolution,
finding those changes don't go far enough.
CBN Middle East BureauChief Chris Mitchell
brings us that story.
- [Chris] During 2020,Palestinian children,
like many others around the world,
couldn't go to school due to COVID-19.
During that time, UnitedNations Relief Works Agency,
or UNRWA, produced andprovided the students material
that went way beyond reading,writing, and arithmetic.
- We found that itcontains various violations
of UN values, of UNESCO standards
and of UNRWA's own principles.
These were educational materials,
which were distributed to over320,000 Palestinian children
across the West Bank and Gaza.
- [Chris] Marcus Sheff leadsa group that monitors peace
and cultural tolerance in schools.
It examined the materialssent to those children,
and what they found was not good.
- The idea that UNRWA, a UN organization,
is distributing materialwhich calls on students
to defend the motherland with blood
or that glorifiesterrorism, directs students
to terrorists like Dalal Mughrabi,
who is, in their materials,a role model for young girls,
somebody who'd murdered 38 people,
including 13 children on a civilian bus.
- [Chris] This IMPACTgroup report from January
lays out examples foundthroughout the curriculum.
In mathematics, students are asked
to write the number of martyrsin the first Intifadah.
A language studies question asks students
to find the prepositionin a sentence like,
"Jihad is one of the doors to paradise."
And in social studies, whereZionist policy is blamed
for exhausting Palestiniannatural resources.
- It was written by UNRWA's teachers.
Now, UNRWA's teachers aresupposed to be trained
in UN values of peace and tolerance.
- Following the January IMPACT report,
UNRWA admitted to the problem
and assured governmentsit had been addressed.
A follow-up study by theIMPACT team, however,
shows that was not the case.
Well, President Trump cutfunding cut funding to UNRWA
because of this kind ofincitement to Palestinian schools,
but President Biden has pledgedto resume humanitarian aid
to the Palestinians.
Gordon.
- Well, Chris, UNRWA hadalready distributed the material
to 32,000 children,
so even if they haveaddressed the problem,
have they gotten that material back?
- No, Gordon.
I don't believe they have.
In fact, I think it'smuch more than 32,000,
maybe 10 times that.
And you can imagine whathappens to school papers.
I remember what happenedwhen I was in school
and when I took those papers home.
So I think those thousands of homes
in the West Bank and Gazaright now have those materials.
I think it's doubtfulit'll ever be returned.
And I don't think UNRWA hadany answer to this question.
- All right, well, what other kinds of,
I don't have anotherword for it, hate speech,
against Jews, against Israel,
was included in the curriculum?
- Well, first of all,they teach that Palestine
goes from the MediterraneanSea to the River Jordan,
and really, that talksabout the extermination
of the state of Israel.
They talk about the right of return,
Jews aren't legitimate,Zionists stole the land,
we need to liberate the land.
And one thing they say, andthis was in the report as well,
but here's one of the textbooks.
This is Dalal Mughrabi.
She murdered about 38 Israelis,including 13 children.
And this is all part ofthe teaching to hate.
Now they're teaching to kill
and really financingjihad to a new generation.
Earlier today, Gordon,
I was listening to some of thecomments of these children.
"I want to be a suicide bomber."
"I want to be a martyr."
And you know, there's 41 UNRWA graduates
that have actually become suicide bombers.
And it reminds you of the scripture,
"You teach up a childin the way he should go
and he will not depart from it."
And actually, WHO, theWorld Health Organization,
defines this as child abuse,
and the ICC, theInternational Criminal Court,
says exploitation of childrenunder 15 is a war crime.
- Well, you don't have to look far
in the Palestinian Authority
to find that they glorify people
that kill Jews and kill Israelis.
They fund them, they fund their families,
and the funding is based on how extreme,
how many Jews are killed, orhow long their sentence is
from Israel when they'recaught and convicted.
And they even have statues to them
in the middle of squaresthat are named after them.
How in the world can we change this?
President Trump, he cut offthe funding back in 2018.
What impact did that haveon the propaganda, if any?
- Well, it didn't actually seem
to have a lot, Gordon, really.
Actually, the day afterthe United States declared
that they were gonna withdraw
their $400 million contribution to UNRWA,
there was a meeting of five other nations.
I think England andGermany were part of that.
Sweden was another one,the UAE, Saudi Arabia.
And they defined,
they said they wouldmake up the difference.
Right now, UNRWA has about a1.2 to $1.5 billion budget.
58% of that goes to education.
And in 2018, the USGovernment Accounting Office
said there was really no peace education.
One idea to actually change this
would to be to reformUNRWA and just make sure
that there's accountabilityby these donor nations
so that they don't havethis kind of indoctrination.
One other thing, and you've mentioned this
many times, Gordon,sometimes these refugees
can't even leave.
They've been in these refugeecamps in Lebanon, in Syria,
in the West Bank, Gaza, EastJerusalem for generations
and they're really not allowedto leave this refugee status.
I mean, these children,they should be training
to be doctors, lawyers, accountants.
Instead, their aspirationis become jihadists,
martyrs, suicide bombers.
And, and so hopefully, there'sa way UNRWA can be reformed
so they can stop this indoctrination
and really perpetuate theserefugees for generations.
- Well, I've said it before,I'll say it again right now.
I think UNRWA needs to go away.
They're not training Palestinians
to create a Palestinian state.
They're clearly incitingviolence against Israel.
They're clearly calling forsome kind of jihadist war
to drive Israel into the sea.
And the Palestinian childrenare just pawns in that game.
And the entire camp structure
that's gone on now for over 70 years,
again, it's just, no.
This thing needs to go away.
I'm fine with giving humanitarian aid
to people that need it inGaza and the West Bank,
but this kind of aid isnot humanitarian at all.
If anything, it perpetuates the problems
of the Palestinian people.
Well, Chris, thanks for joining us today.
You can always get the latest
when you download theCBN News Channel app,
and so I encourage you to do it.
Ashley.
- All right, well, comingup, a pastor dies by suicide
at the age of 30 and leavesbehind a wife and three boys.
His widow, Kayla Stoecklein,shares how she made it
through the mostdifficult time in her life
and how you can help those struggling
with mental illness around you.
She's here with us next, so stay with us.
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Well, the pandemic hascaused a significant increase
in mental illness, with40% of adults struggling
in the US alone.
Kayla Stoecklein knows what it's like
to love and lose someone to mental illness
and says you can find hope and purpose
in the midst of a devastating loss.
Take a look.
- [Narrator] Kayla Stoeckleinwas living the dream
as a megachurch pastor'swife in California.
On August 25, 2018, the dream shattered
when her husband, Andrew, died by suicide.
Kayla realized how misinformedshe was about mental illness
and set out to betterunderstand her husband's battle.
In "Fear Gone Wild," Kaylashares her intimate account
of all that led up to that tragic day
and seeks to help otherswith similar struggles.
- Well with me now viaSkype is Kayla Stoecklein.
Kayla, thank you so muchfor joining us today.
- Thanks so much for having me.
I'm so honored to be here.
- Well, we are so happy to have you.
Well, let's go back a little bit.
You witnessed your husband struggling
with occasional panic attacks,
but then that changed intosomething much deeper.
Tell us what happened.
- Yeah, so it started with panic attacks.
They were very debilitating.
They were happening twoto three times a week
and they were happening for months.
And at first we thought,
you know, maybe it's a health issue,
maybe it's a thyroid issue,so we were seeing doctors,
trying to get to the bottom of it,
and the panic attacksjust kept getting worse.
And Andrew was so brave andhe was pushing through it
and showing up for workand leading through it.
And there was one Sunday, itwas Easter Sunday in 2018,
that he had a massive panic attack
right before he wassupposed to be on stage.
And a security guard foundhim on the bathroom floor
in the middle of the panic attack
and so we went over thereand we sat with him,
and somehow, he was able to get on stage
and give that Easter message
and, like, eight more messagesafter that on that weekend.
But the following week, he hadanother massive panic attack
that landed him in the hospital.
And it was that lastone that we all decided,
you know, enough is enough.
This guy's led our church through a lot.
We had lost his dad.
He was the lead pastorof our church before him
just a few years prior.
He had led the church throughtheir grief and his own grief.
He had never really takentime to rest and to heal
and so we thought, "You know what?
Maybe he's just tired.
Maybe he just needs to take a break."
And so we put him on this sabbatical,
and just a few weeks later,
he was diagnosed with depression.
And it was absolutely shocking.
I mean, I really truly was shocked.
In my eyes, my husbandwas this invincible,
strong, capable man.
I really never thought depression
would be part of our story.
- Wow, well, as Andrewbravely battled depression,
you admit it was hardto come alongside of him
during that time when he wasreally struggling with that.
What do you mean by that?
- It was really difficult.
You know, we had threeyoung boys in our home.
Our boys were two, four andfive years old at the time.
And so I was kind oftorn between being mom
and caretaker for my husband,
and every single day, I really didn't know
who I was going to get.
I didn't know if Andrewwas gonna be happy.
I didn't know if he was gonna be sad.
I didn't know if he was gonna be angry.
I didn't know if he wasgonna be full of anxiety.
I had no idea who would comewalking out of the bedroom
in the morning and so everyday was pretty unpredictable.
And we were doingeverything we knew on paper
to do to get him better.
He was seeing a psychiatrist.
He was taking medication.
We were seeing a therapist together
for two hours every week.
He did solo trips to go spend time alone
in solitude with God.
He went and spent time with the mentors.
We did a two-week roadtrip, just the two of us.
It's like you name it, we tried it.
We were doing everything weknew to do to get him better.
But it was hard.
You know, it was really difficult.
It was unpredictable.
He was in the bedroom at 10:00.
I was trying to take care of our children.
And he was also sufferingfrom spiritual warfare,
and I talk about that in the book,
that was really adding a lot of pain
and confusion to his mentalillness and to his experience.
And so it was a very darktime, a very scary time.
I remember walking around my home
and whispering under my breath,
like, "This feels like hell."
It was just a really awful,heavy, isolating time.
- Well, you mention thisin the book briefly,
and Andrew had actually told you
that he had thoughts of suicide,
and you talk about what youwish you would've said to him.
What are some of those things
you wish you would've said to him?
- Yeah, it was one time,I'll never forget it.
We were sitting at the kitchen counter
after the boys had gone to bed
and he turned and looked at me
and said that he was up the night before
and he had papers strewnall over the counter
and he thought about killing himself.
And my reaction to his admission
was "That's the most selfishthing you could ever do.
You would never do thatto me and the kids."
Like, "How dare you say that?"
I would go on emotions and responding
and even listening to what he had to say.
You know, I was so shocked emotionally
that I wasn't able torespond with empathy.
I wasn't able to respond with love.
I had just responded from my own emotion.
And so now, you know, on the other side,
I've learned that there'sa better way to respond.
When someone tells usthat they're struggling
with suicidal thoughts,it's time to lean in.
It's time to talk less.
It's time to ask questions.
Questions are so powerful.
Questions like: Do youhave a suicide plan?
What problem are you tryingto solve through suicide?
Have you researched it?
Do you know when or how you would do it?
Leaning in and asking questionsand taking it seriously.
I wish I would've taken it seriously.
I really just brushed it offand really, truly believed
that it would never happen, but it did.
And so, if someone tellsyou they're struggling
with suicidal thoughts, it'stime to pick up the phone
and call the suicide hotline number
or text the crisis text line number.
We have to take itseriously because it's real
and it could happen to anybody.
- Yeah, absolutely.
Well, suicide is often covered in shame,
with many families not wantingto say the word to anyone
or even at the funeral.
Why do you think that is?
- I think it's a personal thing.
I think it's misunderstood.
I think, oftentimes,suicide is viewed as selfish
so a lot of that shame andblame is placed on the shoulders
of the person who died.
That's why, oftentimes,we say committed suicide,
and I've learned that it'sbetter to say died by suicide
because committed is a wordthat we attach to phrases
like committed a sinor committed a murder,
committed a crime.
It really puts that shame and blame
onto the shoulders of the person who died.
And I think it also putsa lot of shame and blame
onto the shoulders of the family.
Like, what could we have done?
We should've saved them.
We should've helped them.
We should've done more.
It's this vicious cycle
of we should've done more,we could've done more.
Why didn't we see it?
And so there is just allthis shame and blame.
And so I think it's sohelpful for me, in my journey,
just to remember that, youknow, Andrew died by suicide.
This is something that happened to him
as a result of his physical pain,
his emotional pain, his mental illness,
and he would have never,ever, ever seen this coming.
I mean, I really truly believethat it wasn't a decision.
I believe that he wasjust overwhelmed with pain
that the suicide felt like the only way
to make the pain go away.
- Yeah. Yeah.
Well, I feel like pastors today
have a lot more pressure on them.
What can the church do tohelp support the mental health
and wellness of ourpastors and congregates?
- Yeah, especially in 2020, 2021.
I mean, it's been a verydifficult year for pastors
and all the different thingsthey've had to navigate.
I think the best thing that we can do
is pray for our pastors
and just remember that ourpastors are people too.
They're not super human.
They're just as human as the rest of us.
They aren't any closerto God than you and me.
They are human and they make mistakes
and they are broken justlike the rest of us.
And so praying for our pastors,
having grace and empathy for our pastors,
supporting our pastors.
If they take a sabbatical,support them in that.
If they take a weekendoff, support them in that.
If you want to send the nasty email
because you didn't like whatthey said at church on Sunday,
think about it a littlebit before you press send.
Think about your pastor's mental health.
And remember at the end ofthe day, they are a person.
They are doing the bestthey can with what they have
and they are not God.
- Yeah. Amen to that.
Well, to hear more of Kayla'sjourney, check out her book.
Get her book, guys, "Fear Gone Wild."
It's available wherever books are sold.
And Kayla, thank you so muchfor sharing your story with us.
We are praying for you.
- Thank you so much.- Of course.
Well, if you are someoneyou know is struggling
with depression or thoughts of suicide,
please reach out to your local church
or always call the NationalSuicide Prevention Lifeline.
That's at 1-800-273-8255.
Know that you are not alone.
Gordon.
- Well still ahead, a youngwoman skids off the road
and flips several timesbefore landing upside-down.
- They had to airlift her to the hospital
and I just started screaming.
What I saw with my physicaleyes was a death sentence.
- No father's ever imagined one day
to walk into a hospital roomto see your daughter in a coma.
- So how did she go from life support
to ultimately going to law school?
You'll have to see it tobelieve it right after this.
LaTau Martin had a slim chance of survival
after her first car accident.
A second one brought fearsof permanent brain damage.
So how was she able towalk out of the hospital
and graduate from law school?
Well, here's her incredible story.
- [Narrator] On July 3, 2003,
LaTau Martin and herboyfriend drove down I-75
to spend the 4th of July withLaTau's family in Orlando.
It had been raining
and LaTau's parents,Michael and Francina Norman,
along with her sistercalled to check on her,
but there was no answer.
- And I said, "Something is not right."
- [Narrator] When Francina tried again,
this time, a state trooper answered.
- He said, "Your daughter'sbeen involved in an accident,"
and said they had toairlift her to the hospital.
And I just started screaming.
- [Narrator] LaTau's carhad hydroplaned, spun out,
and flipped several timesbefore landing upside-down.
While LaTau's boyfriendescaped with minor injuries,
LaTau was airlifted
to the Orlando RegionalMedical Center unconscious
and in critical condition.
When her parents arrived,
they learned LaTau was ina medically-induced coma
and was on life support.
- What I saw with my physicaleyes was a death sentence.
- No father's ever imagined one day
to walk into a hospital roomto see your daughter in a coma.
- [Narrator] Doctors told them
LaTau had bleeding on thebrain and punctured lungs.
They also said her chancesof survival were slim,
and even if she did live,her cognitive abilities
would be severely affectedfor the rest of her life.
At once, Francina, a minister,
contacted her ministry partnersaround the world to pray,
believing God had plans for LaTau,
a bright college studentworking towards her law degree.
- And I said, "But God.I'm looking at you.
I'm looking at you, Jesus, as my friend.
And I want to say to you,if you take my child,
that's gonna hurt me, so God,I need you to heal my child."
A peace came over me and Iheard the Holy Spirit say to me,
"I got this."
- [Narrator] Seven dayslater, LaTau was back home.
Still, she needed prayer,
as the injury had affectedher short-term memory,
her mobility, and her personality.
- And I was just like,"God, this is so hard,
and I need you to giveher back her memory."
- When I didn't know what todo, I didn't have the answers,
and I didn't remember, I remembered God.
I remembered His Word, andI remembered who He was.
- [Narrator] Through weeksof therapy and prayer,
LaTau was able to return to college
to continue her senior year.
Despite recovering nearly40% of her short-term memory,
she maintained an A average.
Then in 2004, 15 months later,
LaTau was in anothernear fatal car accident.
She was with a friend when the tire blew,
causing the car to flip several times,
landing in a canal.
Paramedics arrived to findher friend, who was driving,
thrown from the car with minor injuries.
LaTau, dazed, was still in the car.
- When the paramedics came,
I heard them say somethingabout my head and my eyes.
They knew I had another head injury
because I burst theblood vessels in my eyes.
- [Narrator] LaTau wasairlifted to a nearby hospital
with two broken wrists,a broken left forearm,
a brain injury, and a fractured skull.
Doctors said this time shelikely would not recover
her cognitive or reasoning skills.
- It's something younever really get over.
- I said, "What is she carrying
that's gonna make adifference with her generation
that the enemy wanna take her out?
The Lord began to show me
how she was gonna makea difference in law,
said she was going to be a judge,
and she was gonna judge righteously.
- [Narrator] After six hours of surgery
on her wrists and forearm,
LaTau faced months ofcognitive and physical therapy.
Drawing on the faith and prayers
of thousands around the world,
LaTau and her family refused to give up.
- It was me and my husband'sresponsibility to war for her,
to make sure that the enemy know
that we gon' fight for every single thing
that's supposed to happen in her life.
- I would have those thoughtsthat I have to accept this,
this is going to be my life.
What if actually my brain's getting worse?
I knew you can't give up.
I have to keep pushing, Ihave to keep persevering,
I have to be determined, andI have to stand on His Word
and stand on the purposeand what I'm called to be.
- [Narrator] LaTau continuedher relentless pursuit
of getting her degreeand graduated cum laude.
Then, after getting her MBA
at the Royal Holloway,University of London,
LaTau and her family saytheir prayers were answered
when she earned her law degreefrom Southern University
in Baton Rouge, Louisiana in 2016.
- I was thanking God because I said,
"Oh, look what the Lord has done.
She finished law school."
It was so emotional.
- I was just so thankfuland overjoyed by the miracle
that I've seen manifested in my own life.
- [Narrator] Today,LaTau has no brain damage
and has regained 70% ofher short-term memory
and her cognitive skills.
She's looking forward to passing the bar
and practicing criminal law.
She and her family knowthe power of prayer
can change any situation.
- God truly answers prayer.
- When I look at my daughter today,
I admire the tenacity that she had.
God hears your prayer.
You're gonna see themanifestation of God's power
to heal you, any difficult situation,
'cause if He can do it forus, He can do it for you.
- Well I just want to tell those
who are going through trauma,tribulations, and trials,
don't give up.
God's gonna answer your prayers.
He's gonna heal you.
- And that's a great word for all of us.
Don't give up.
When you give up, yougive in to this, and no.
Always pray, and pray with the expectation
that you will receive an answer.
Jesus talked about it numerous times,
but this wonderful parableof the importune widow.
She knew the judge was unrighteous.
She knows she was goingto have a tough time
getting the answer to what she wanted,
but she still pounded on that door
because she knew if shekept pounding on the door,
she'd get an answer.
And you can get an answer today.
Well, here's another story.
This is an answer to prayer.
Charlotte, from Facebook.
She's writing, "My daughterwas born with a coarctation,"
that means a narrowing, "of the aorta.
For three years, we enduredmany hospital visits,
9-1-1 calls, heart monitors, oxygen tanks.
By the power of prayer,
my baby girl was healedat three years old."
Three years it took to get the answer,
and it can happen for you in an instant.
Let's pray.
Lord, we just trust in you.
We trust in your unfailing love.
We trust in your mercythat is new every morning.
So for everyone liftingup a need right now,
let your mercy overtake them.
Let your healing come intotheir bodies right now.
In Jesus' name.
Ashley, God's giving you something.
- Yeah, I believe someone's watching.
The issue is with your left hand
and it's like your fingertips are swollen
and very sensitive.
The Lord is healingthat for you right now.
He's just, declare it,declare that over yourself
and receive it in Jesus' name.
- Someone else with swollenankles caused by heart problems
and you're not getting proper circulation.
In Jesus' name, be healed of that.
Your heart muscle be strengthened now.
In the name of Jesus, amen.
If you've been touchedor if you need prayer,
call us, 1-800-700-7000.
Here's the word from Psalms 34:
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
He rescues those whosespirits are crushed.
On tomorrow's show, we've got,
I think we've got on tomorrow's show,
we're gonna have a viralsensation from overnight.