- We love hearing from youwhen you send in your questions

that you'd like to seeanswered on the program,

so we'd like to take some time

to answer your questionswith honest responses now.

Pat, this is a viewer whosays, "It's been five years

"since my wife ended our 13-year marriage.

"Should I start dating or stay single?

"Is it a sin to dateor get married again?"

- Oh, your wife apparently left you.

You didn't say whether it'sadultery or what's the deal,

but she has walked out on ya,

and there's what's calleda Pauline Privilege.

If the unbeliever departs,the brother and sister's

not bound in a case like that.

In my opinion, according tothe code Pauline Privilege,

you're free to get married

and build a nicer life for yourself.

Your wife walked out years ago.

I mean, you're free, okay?

- Yeah, okay, this is a viewer who says,

"Both my parents diedwhile in a false religion.

"Where are they?

"I know the Bible says thatthe body goes to the grave,

"and the spirit goesback to God who gave it.

"But where does the soul,their identity, go?"

- The soul, or the Nephesh, was a result

of the body comingtogether with the spirit.

When the spirit leaves, thesoul vanishes; there is no soul.

There's the spirit thatgoes to be with the Lord,

and the body goes to the dust and dirt.

Well that's not really what you're asking.

What happened to your parents?

Well, where did their spirits go?

Those who have found the Lordare with the Lord in eternity,

and Jesus said to thefaithful on the cross,

"This day you'll be with me in paradise,"

so it was an instant thing.

Paul said, "I'm in a strait betwixt two,

"where depart and be with the Lord

"or remain in the flesh,which is needful for you."

So a person dies, they'reeither going to be

in paradise with the Lord,

or they're going to wind up in Hell.

And the spirit, the body, will leave,

and there's no soul left, okay?

- This is Amanda who says,"I'm a mother of four children,

"two of which are special needs.

"I am married; our onlyincome is my disability

"and one of my children'sdisability payments.

"My husband isn't able to work much,

"because I am legally blind.

"He drives us to appointments.

"We are about three paymentsbehind on our mortgage.

"Our vehicle is in bad shape,

"and we must keep it up as best we can

"due to our daughter's appointments.

"Are there any tips for budgeting

"on a fixed income of $1,5000 a month?"

- Well I won't lecture you on the fact

that you probably shouldn't have been

having a family with those conditions.

But I want you to know ourresearch department says

there's what's called public partnerships.

Adults and children withdevelopmental disabilities

can apply for assistance.

A person of their choice,including a family member,

can be hired and paidfor a set amount of hours

to take the person withdisabilities to appointments.

Your husband may possibly be hired,

and see if the program is available

in the state whereyou're living, all right?

- Wow, so he can actually get paid

for being at home helping.- The public partnerships,

okay?- Okay.

This is a viewer who says, "Weare supposed to tell people

"in our everyday life aboutChrist; that's a fact.

"But how do I know whetherit's really the Holy Spirit

"wanting me to do soin a certain situation

"or just my sense of duty?

"How can I discern?"

- Well you know, if you run a car,

you really need to have oil in the engine

or the thing will seize up.

And if you try to imposeyour views on somebody

without the anointing of the Holy Spirit,

brother are you saved, no, uh-uh.

The question is, as many asare led by the spirit of God,

they're the sons of God.

You need to know whatthe Holy Spirit is doing,

and you need to have a sensibility.

Your spirit has got to respond

to the spirit of the other person,

and you used that term empathy,

but there's gotta be more than that.

And so, just to say,well, I've got a duty.

I've got to tell you aboutJesus, and brother are you saved?

No, look for an opportunity.

If you read in John where Jesus met

with that woman at the well,

that is a classic of how you deal

with somebody along the way.

And Jesus said, "Give me some water,"

so he put himself in her debt.

And then He gets the water, and He says,

"Now if you knew who wasasking you for water,

"you'd have asked Him, andHe'd given you living waters,"

and then all the way down the line.

And she began to reveal herself

that she was reallyliving with another man

that wasn't her husband and all this.

But it's classic, so read that and learn,

and have the word of God in your heart.

But more than anything, havethe spirit of God in your soul

so that you're empathetic withthe other person, all right?

- Okay, this is Mary who says,

"My son wants me to move to North Carolina

"near him and his family.

"I wanna stay in New Jerseywhere I was brought up.

"I keep praying for Godto show me what He wants,

"but I'm not receiving an answer.

"I am 72, and to move toNorth Carolina scares me,

"because I am alone.

"I don't know what to do.

"Are there any scriptures you can give me

"to help me make a decision?"

- I wrote a book about guidance,

and I said big decisionstake big guidance.

To move out of your home to gointo an unfamiliar situation

when you don't know what's gonna happen,

you don't know how goodyour son's gonna be.

He could turn on you andtake advantage of you.

I tell ya, if you ask me,I'd stay where you are

unless you get a cleardirection from the Lord.

And I think my word is bigdecisions take big guidance.

In the mouth of two or more witnesses,

let everything be established.

That's what the Bible says.

So, get it in your heart, andthen get some confirmation

outside; otherwise, stay where you are.

North Carolina's a wonderful state,

but if you're happy in New Jersey,

stay there, all right? (laughs)

- (laughs) Okay, this is Candace who says,

"My husband and I have beenseparated for over a year.

"He now lives with someone else.

"Would it be okay forme to file for divorce?

"If we finalize our divorce,

"am I ever allowed to marry again?"

- Candace, of course you are.

Jesus said, "Except forthe cause of fornication,"

your husband is obviouslyliving with somebody else,

so he's broken off themarriage relationship,

and you're not under that bondage.

So, if the Lord leads you to somebody

that's more compatible,

and He's established thisis a life partner for ya.

But don't rush into anything;that's the big thing.

Do not rush into a relationship.

You've had a bad one.

Don't open another bad one.

Two wrongs don't--