Best-selling author and psychologist Dr. Kevin Leman discusses how parents can help their children have fun while gaining educational excellence.
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Well if you heard a
collective sigh of relief
over the last few
days, it's probably
from parents who finally shipped
their kids back to school.
But as Kevin Lehman says, the
important thing for parents
isn't that they get their
children on the right bus.
It's making sure that those kids
are getting in the right seat.
Take a look.
NARRATOR: Bestselling
author, Dr. Kevin Leman,
says, finding the right
school for your child,
whether public,
private, or home school,
is one of the most important
decisions parents make.
Dr. Leman believes everyone
deserves a quality education,
but it's vital to be
sure your child is
matched to the right school.
In his book,
Education A La Carte,
Dr. Leman provides
much needed tools
to choose the best schooling
option for the child.
It helps students
prepare for life,
both inside and
outside the classroom.
Well our good friend Dr.
Kevin Leman is here with us now.
We welcome you back
to The 700 club.
I want to mention
at the top that all
of the things that we're
talking about today
are included in your new
book, Education A La Carte,
Choosing The Best Schooling
Options For Your Child.
Boy, every parent needs
to know that, don't they?
Yeah, I title my
own books, and I
think Education A La Carte is
a pretty good title because I
don't think most parents are
even aware of all the choices
there are for kids today.
And it's not only getting
your kid on the right bus,
it's getting your kid on
the right seat on the bus.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: Exactly.
And there's magnet
schools and charter schools,
private schools,
parochial schools.
You name it, they're out there.
Yes, you know, I think one
of the things that's difficult
for a parent is to figure out
what's your child's learning
style.
Most of us just went to school
and wherever you landed,
you landed.
I mean, it was true for you.
I was so surprised to read with
all of your accomplishments
and your books and your
studies that you were smart,
but you had terrible
grades in grade school.
What happened?
Yeah, I never figured I
was smart till later on,
but I spent a lot of my
elementary education standing
in the corner looking
at paint chips.
I mean, that was
what they do with me.
But I graduated fourth in bottom
of my class in high school.
Then what motivated you?
What finally-- you didn't
go on to college right away.
You worked for a while.
And what was it that made
you say, you know what,
I need to turn this around?
Well, I became a believer.
I met my wife in the
men's room of a hospital
when I was a janitor.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: Do you
want to talk about that?
[LAUGHTER]
Well, no, she
was the inspiration
that God used in my life
to help pull the trigger.
And after I became a believer,
God gave me motivation,
and I went in and
never looked back.
I had 13 years of college.
But, I mean, I remember
being in a reading group
with a girl who ate paste.
I was going nowhere, OK.
I think I had someone in
high school who ate that stuff.
But now with a book,
Education A La Carte,
I challenge parents to
take a look at the learning
style of your kid.
How do you know
what it is, Kevin?
Well, you know, nobody
is better equipped
to know who your
kid is than you are.
You're the best teacher
your child will ever have.
But is your kid interested
in people, data, or things?
There's three areas right there.
You can see the future engineer
who is working with his LEGOs.
But again you got a kid who's
in music, loves music and drama,
would you send them
to the public school
down the street to just
slash their entire budget
and don't have much to offer?
So again, I challenge
parents, if there ever
was a book that's a guide,
a handy guide that--
as my publisher says,
this book has legs,
it's going to be on
the shelf a long time,
because there's so many
opportunities out there
for kids.
And my friend Bill Bennett, who
endorsed my book, by the way,
I've never asked anybody
to endorse a book.
It doesn't get any
better than that.
But he was so great
to do that, but he
says, every elementary
school needs to ensure
that kids learn to read.
I've got news for you.
That's late breaking
news a lot of places
because they're not
learning to read.
And we don't set
the high jump bar
of life high enough for kids.
In Leman Academy, we
started these schools.
Talk about that,
because you started
some charter schools that are
doing some pretty amazing work.
Well they are.
They really are.
We have high
expectations for kids.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: Very good thing.
And we insist
that parents become
involved in the education.
Making Children Mind
Without Losing Yours
and Have a New Kid By Friday,
two of my parenting books,
which was fun for me, is to take
those principles I wrote about.
Your child is not the
center of the universe, OK.
And vitamin E-- encouragement.
How do you encourage kids today?
What about vitamin
N, which is No.
We put that in the classroom.
Plus, Terry, we put authority
in the classroom teacher's hand.
TERRY MEEUWSEN:
Which we have seen
being eroded from the public
classrooms for decades.
KEVIN LEMAN: From the get go.
So when you put
that in a school,
and I challenge parents to
take a look around and see.
There's magnet schools
that specialize
in certain types of
training, and there's
high schools where kids learn
auto mechanics and welding.
Take a look at the myriad
opportunities for your kids.
You can be a good
coach to your child
because every parent
worries about peer group
and about social pressure and
competing in a global economy.
The days of crayons and coloring
in kindergarten are over.
Those kids are reading.
It's accelerated.
It is accelerated, and so
is the work that comes home.
I think parents are
sometimes overwhelmed by all
of that, Kevin.
And now you're talking
about potentially,
if they're not in
a charter school,
placing kids in
different schools.
One family may have children
in different schools.
How do you juggle that?
Yeah, when
parents hear that, I
think they want to get a
gun out and let me have it,
but the truth of the matter is
that your kids are different.
Your first born and your
second born child of any--
TERRY MEEUWSEN: It's true.
--family are very,
very different.
But you know, it
gets back to looking
at kids' potential,
what they do well,
and trying to guide
them through it.
As far as homework
goes, hey parents,
don't do the homework
for their kids.
Hey would you turn
that music down,
I'm trying to finish
your homework.
[LAUGHTER]
You know, that's the
permissive parent today.
They want to do
everything for their kid.
For their child, yeah.
So a principle--
B doesn't start
until A is completed.
But can I ask you, how do
you get a child to want to do
their homework after they've
been in school all day,
and they've been focused and
directed and everything's-- you
know, they come home, we're
raising our granddaughter,
and when she comes
home, she's only in K5,
but she wants to play.
Oh yes, and I think it's good
for kids to come home and play,
then have a set time.
And you can lead that horse to
water, OK, you know that one,
but you can't make
them drink it.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: Yes.
But again I go back
to a simple principle,
like B doesn't happen until A.
Kids always want everything.
They're on the take.
They're hedonistic
little suckers,
we know that from
the day they're born.
And so they're always
asking for something.
And a simple retort
like, honey, I
see your homework is not done.
When that's done we'll talk
about B, the next thing.
And so I just want to
emphasize the authority.
And keep in mind that
God is not authoritarian,
but he is a supreme what?
Authority.
You need the
authority in the home.
We need authority in classrooms.
Let your yes be
yes, your no be no.
The kid gets in
trouble at our school,
I always tell the parents,
hey, expect a call from school.
But guess who's going
to be on the phone?
It's little Buford
saying, I don't
know how to behave
like a fourth grader,
you need to come pick me up now.
And that's keeping the tennis
ball alive, Terry, in the court
it should be in.
Child bearing responsibility
for their own actions
and choices.
Hold those little
suckers accountable.
It's great training in life.
TERRY MEEUWSEN: I
want to mention,
the book is
Education A La Carte,
and it's available
wherever books are sold.
Want to find out more about
all the school options that
are available to you?
It's in here.
And you're doing some great
work with charter schools.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
You always bring wise counsel.