Time for some Bring It On. email.

You ready?

Lay it on me.

OK Pat, this first question comes from JT, who says,

is it wrong to fantasize when you're not hurting anyone?

I don't know what you mean by not hurting anyone.

If you are fantasizing on having sex

with somebody that's not your wife,

Jesus said it's the same thing as having adultery

if you look at a woman and you have the act in your mind.

It's the same thing.

So is that what you're talking about?

If you're fantasizing on this kind of stuff,

if you're looking at porn and fantasizing,

if you're looking at naked women in pictures or fantasizing,

that's sinful.

You know?

So is it wrong?

Yes, it's wrong.

OK.

This is Sean, who says as a Christian,

how can I deal with a coworker who writes negative reports

and tries by every means to harm people intentionally in order

for him to get a higher position or salary in his job?

How do you deal with it?

That kind of stuff is in every business

and every organization, there are people

who are grasping and hurtful.

I don't know.

There comes a time, as a supervisor,

when somebody's doing that, they ought to get fired.

But in terms of a coworker, you don't

want to be a tattletale because no one will listen to you.

But if I were you, I would just pray.

I would kind of take it up and let the Lord deal

with that kind of conduct, it will be exposed.

Sooner or later, that guy's a phony,

and he's building up something that's not real.

And the supervisors, sooner or later,

will understand he doesn't know what he's doing.

So I think if I were you, I'd live in the Lord's hands.

OK,this is Shane, Pat, who says I'm 31 now and I just came

across your show last night.

I've been struggling with addiction for a very long time.

I want to give my life fully to God,

but I'm so scared because every time I go a day without using,

the pain is horrible.

I have no help to quit.

I only want Jesus in my life but I'm failing

and I fear one day it will be too late.

I'm trying so hard but I'm so scared I'll never quit.

Thank you for any kind words or anything at all.

I don't know what you're addicted to, but I'll tell you,

21 days is how long it takes to form a habit

or to get free of a habit.

Now what you do is, today I'm not going to use.

And if need be, get a support group all around you.

That's the thing that Alcoholics Anonymous does,

they got somebody that you can--

who's gone through the same experiences you have

and who understands your problem.

Get somebody with you, then one day, then the next day,

and the next day, and after just 21 days--

that's three short weeks--

that habit can be broken.

But in the meantime, God himself can come in and set you free.

But you have to understand that there

may be some physical pain.

I mean, you know, if you are addicted to nicotine,

if you're addicted to caffeine, if you're addicted to anything,

the withdrawal symptoms can hurt a little bit.

But you have to be willing, and say suck it up.

Go through, it won't be that hard that long.

Yeah, sometimes churches have wonderful programs

too that you can participate in with people who understand

what you're going through.

I have not encountered any of them and I hope they're there.

They are there.