Contemporary Gospel singer Mandisa shares about the loss of a dear friend and how she is overcoming depression through trusting God.
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[MUSIC - MANDISA, "STRONGER"]
NARRATOR: Ever
since her appearance
on "American Idol"
in 2006, Mandisa
has been captivating audiences
with her powerhouse voice.
MANDISA: [SINGING] When the
waves are taking you under,
hold on just a
little bit longer.
He knows that this is gonna
make you stronger, stronger.
NARRATOR: And as she launched
into her singing career,
it was her smile and
positive outlook on life
that captured their hearts.
I kind of feel like I'm
known as the cheerleader,
like you're stronger
and you're an overcomer
and it's a good morning.
But it's hard.
NARRATOR: Mandisa admits that
her ever-uplifting personality
was simply her way of
masking her own struggles.
[LAUGHS] I don't like
talking about my emotions.
I don't know, it's not
the way that I was raised
and it's not something that
comes naturally for me.
NARRATOR: But there would come
a time she couldn't fake it
any longer.
[MUSIC - MANDISA, "OVERCOMER"]
MANDISA: [SINGING]
You're an overcomer.
NARRATOR: In 2013, Mandisa
released her fourth album,
entitled "Overcomer."
The title track was dedicated
to her friend Lakisha, who
chose to forego treatment
for her breast cancer
in order to protect
her unborn son.
Mandisa prayed,
convinced that God
was going to perform a miracle.
But less than a year after
giving birth to her son,
Lakisha passed away.
In my mind, I was saying
to God ahead of time,
I know you're
going to heal Kisha
because this is what's going
to give you the most glory.
If Kisha comes out of this,
she can then use her testimony
to tell other people
about the greatness of God
and how He heals.
And when it didn't happen
that way, I didn't understand.
It shook my faith
in a way that I
did not expect
and really thought
that I would not battle with.
I thought my foundation
was really firm.
But when that happened,
I was angry at God.
NARRATOR: Mandisa went into
isolation, shutting out
her friends, family, and God.
I didn't go to church,
I didn't read my Word.
I certainly didn't pray,
because I felt like He was not
hearing my prayers.
And the result was that
I fell into the deepest
depression of my life.
I started turning to my
old ways, which is food.
For years I'd battled
it, and I'd actually
found some success recently
when I lost over 120 pounds.
But I quickly gained
every last pound
of that back and
a whole lot more.
And so then I'm battling with
shame and the enemy telling me,
how can you tell other people
that they're overcomers when
you can't even overcome the same
issue that you've been dealing
with your entire life?
NARRATOR: Months later, her
friends decided to intervene.
The one time that
I left my house,
I was at a movie theater.
And I think I was watching
a marathon of movies.
And when I came out,
I saw that my car had
a bunch of sticky notes on it.
And as I got closer, I realized
a lot of these sticky notes
were Scriptures and Disa we love
you and we're praying for you.
And then as I drew closer
to my car, I saw about eight
of my friends started
gathering around.
They found me at
the movie theater.
And they said listen, this has
been going on for too long.
We're not going to
leave you like this.
NARRATOR: Her
friends convinced her
to see a Christian counselor.
There, she uncovered the roots
of her depression and addiction
to food.
I've battled with just a
heaviness and a darkness,
I feel like my whole life.
I was molested at an early age,
I was raped at an early age.
And I think the
divorce of my parents
probably had an
impact on my worth
and in placing my worth
in the wrong things.
And I turned to
food my entire life.
When you're heavy
at a young age,
you deal with a lot of ridicule.
But then when you have sexual
abuse on top of that like,
it's just a vicious cycle.
NARRATOR: And
Mandisa soon realized
that she couldn't hide
behind a smile any longer.
I'm realizing that
the healthy thing to do
is to bring those
disappointments
and anger to God.
God says that David was
a man after his own heart
and David committed adultery.
He had somebody murdered.
He made mistake after mistake,
but he brought those things
to God, and I think
that's why he was
a man after God's own heart.
And I want to be a woman
after God's own heart.
NARRATOR: Mandisa began taking
her deepest pains to God.
And it was then she
finally found freedom.
Now I feel like my
verses, my theme verses are
Psalm 40 verses 2
through 3, that says,
He lifted me out of the pit,
out of the mud and mire.
He set my feet on a rock and
He gave me a new song to sing.
That's basically
where I am today.
I was in the deepest pit of my
life, but Jesus lifted me out
and I feel like I have a
new purpose and a renewed
sense of worth.
NARRATOR: It was that experience
that inspired her latest
album, "Out of the Dark."
[MUSIC - MANDISA, "UNFINISHED"]
MANDISA: [SINGING] He
started something good
and I'm gonna believe it.
He started something good
and He's gonna complete it.
So I'll celebrate the truth.
His work in me ain't through.
I'm just unfinished.
Ooh.
I'm just unfinished.
Ooh.
NARRATOR: Now when Mandisa
wears that winning smile,
it's not to cover up the
imperfections in her life,
but to show that no matter what
happens, God is in control.
I don't just say I have
overcome, because I still
have to on a daily
basis make a choice
not to go into my default
but to really walk
in faith and in confidence.
When I look in the mirror and I
just want t list off everything
that I hate, or when
I feel like I've
made another mistake, the
same mistakes that I make over
and over again, instead
of beating myself up
I say, no, God began
a good work in me
and He will finish it on the
day that Christ Jesus returns.
I'm a masterpiece in the making,
I'm just unfinished right now.