THE PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR I HIRED OBTAINED EVIDENCE OF HIS ADULTEROUS AFFAIR. DO I HAVE BIBLICAL GROUNDS TO DIVORCE HIM? I'M STRUGGLING TO BELIEVE, AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
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Time for some emails.
Questions, questions.
Questions.
Let's bring it on.
All right.
This is Maria, who says,
my husband of 26 years
has been having an
affair with a coworker.
He is unremorseful.
He attended three
therapy sessions
and then said he will
not attend anymore.
The Christian therapist told
me his emotions toward me
and our children
have "flat lined".
When I try to talk with him
about how his affair makes
me feel, he tells me I'm
making a big deal over nothing.
The private investigator
I hired obtained evidence
of his adulterous affair.
Do I have Biblical
grounds to divorce him?
There's one ground
that Jesus said divorce,
and that is adultery.
It's spelled out very clearly.
Paul also gave us what's
called the Pauline privilege,
if the unbeliever is pleased
to depart from a believer,
the believer is not
bound under those cases.
I think there's such a thing as
constructive desertion, where
people make it
impossible, a spouse
makes it literally impossible
to live with him or her.
And under those circumstances,
it's like desertion.
But do you have a ground?
Absolutely.
Do you want a divorce?
That's your call.
But you don't have to subject--
I just say, God didn't
intend to put us in prison.
Marriage is supposed
to be a blessing.
And it isn't some
locked in prison because
of some verse in the Bible.
I think marriage is supposed
to be a relationship where
two people are as one, they
become one flesh in the Lord,
they bring forth children, they
live together and in unity.
And it's considered a blessing.
It's like heaven on earth.
If you've got hell
on earth, I think
you got the wrong
kind of marriage.
So OK.
OK.
This is Adelaide,
Pat, who says, I'm
struggling to seek and find God.
I read my Bible every day and
go to church twice a week.
I pray with my
family and on my own.
The Bible says that God is
self-evident, plain to all
to see.
I feel like I'm broken or
that God doesn't want me.
Everyone else has amazing
spiritual experiences
in church, but I feel like
I'm just talking to myself.
I'm struggling to believe
and I don't know what to do.
Look, God loves you.
I recommend you read the Bible.
And I recommend that
you find a scripture.
I like that 103rd Psalm, but I
want you to read it and say it.
And then I want you
to read it and say it.
Then I want you to
read it and say it.
And I want you to
read it and say it
until it becomes a part of you,
and then believe what it says.
And let that become
a part of you,
then begin to live
what is in the Bible.