Welcome back to "The 700 Club."

It's time to bring it on with your email questions,

and Pat is in the hot seat.

Glenn says, "12 years ago my wife and I

built a beautiful new home on eight acres of land

that the Lord blessed us with.

It's peaceful and quiet.

My wife loves to watch all of the home renovation

shows displaying the newest ideas in home design.

She now wants a new home with new features

and is out looking at new homes on her own--

without my blessing.

She is not content.

It's bringing a lot of tension into our marriage

because I believe we need to stay where we are.

I've even offered to do some renovations to our current home

but that does not satisfy her.

What can I do to make her happy?"

Well, I wouldn't worry so much about making her happy,

but what you've got to do to make yourself happy

is assert yourself as a husband.

And say, listen, I'm the head of the household

and the answer to this thing is no, now stop it.

You know, this woman has got deep-seated psychological

issues and she thinks she can fulfill them

by material possessions.

And no amount of material possessions

can ever make anybody happy.

You can have a bigger car, you can have a bigger house,

you can have a bigger yacht, you can have a bigger income.

You could have a whole lot of toys, and none of them

will make you happy.

There's only one thing that will make you happy,

and that is Jesus.

And what she needs is to have a close relationship with Jesus,

where she dies and He comes alive.

It's spiritual, I'm talking about.

I mean, you know, you die the self and you come alive to Him.

Then you'll know satisfaction.

But be a husband and say, no, wife,

I am the head of the household and this is it.

You know, that's one of the problems in our marriages

today, that there is no order.

There's supposed to be order.

And I know women don't like to hear this, but in the Bible

the husband is the head of the household.

Just the way that you can't have two heads, and when you do,

you've got fighting all the time.

All right, what else you got?

You know, but I appreciate that he wanted to say,

I'll make some renovations.

But she didn't want that, so--

It's not a renovation.

There's nothing you can do to a house to make somebody happy.

I'm sorry.

All right.

Serina writes, "My husband and I have been married for 21 years,

but have been together for 28.

We have two children, ages 26 and 25.

Our 25-year-old son is autistic and mentally disabled

and needs constant care.

I alone care for our son.

My husband does not work or help in any way.

I struggle to make ends meet.

My husband also has a slight drug problem.

If he does do an odd job, he won't

help with household expenses or food,

but he will eat the food that I struggle

to bring into the house.

Is this grounds for divorce in God's eyes?

I struggle with the idea of divorce

because I was brought up to believe that divorce is wrong--

but I don't know how much more I can take."

Well, the first thing-- you were living together without

being married, and you were having kids and then you got

married.

OK.

I think, in my opinion, what you're looking

at is constructive desertion.

Your husband essentially has deserted out of the home.

He's not carrying any load, he's making you carry the load,

and it's too much for you, and it's not fair.

It's constructive desertion.

Now, you don't necessarily have to get a divorce,

but you could get a decree of separation,

because I suspect you are the principal breadwinner.

Just you want to get his hands off your money,

and that's what will happen.

I know this sounds hard, but you just

can't live-- it's an intolerable situation that you're in now.

And I would say constructive desertion--

he has essentially left you, even though he's still

staying in the house.

I totally agree.

Thank you, Pat.

All right, William says, "I'm disabled

and can't travel like everyone else.

My wife wants to go to a concert by herself

in a city where there's been at least one

shooting a night since January 1.

I asked her not to go because I'm worried for her safety.

But she said she's going anyway.

Other than prayer, what can I do?"

What you can do is say yes.

The other guy, I said, say no.

This one you say yes.

She wants to go to the concert, let her go to the concert.

So she gets shot, tough luck.

You know, it's her life.

You know?

So, I'm sorry, dear, you just got shot.

You asked for it.

But what about being head of the household

and just putting his foot down?

Being the head of the household

means you've got to give freedom to the members of the household

to do what they want to do.

And she wants to go to a concert, and you're disabled,

you can't make it.

So, enjoy.

Say, look, you enjoy.

I'll pray that the Lord will protect you.

And she'll be all right.

You've got an unnatural fear.

She's not going to get shot.

I mean, how many people get shot in the city, percentage-wise?

Hardly any.

And so, don't worry about it.

Say, dear, I'm giving you into God's hands.

You want to go, go with my blessing.

What can I do?

Make it easy on yourself.

Amen.

I like that.

You like that?

I like that answer.

All right.

I like all of his answers.

All right.

Starla says, "Do you believe everyone who says

the sinner's prayer is saved?

I know the Bible tells us if we confess with our mouths

and believe in our hearts the Lord Jesus Christ,

we shall be saved.

Do you believe this is salvation?"

There's got to be a question of repentance.

Just saying a bunch of words doesn't get you saved.

You have to give your heart to the Lord.

There has to be a commitment to Jesus.

And so, when you confess Him, it means that, I

am making you Lord of my life.

And it's got to be a commitment, not just saying

a bunch of words.

Words won't do it.

It's got to be a commitment from the heart.