Is it adultery if he spent time with another woman but didn't have sex? Is church the "Congregation" or "Assembly" and not a building?
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Time to bring it on with
your e-mail questions.
And Pat, this first one comes
from Caroline, who says,
"I got married to a guy
who constantly cheated.
I stayed for our son.
I broke up with him
after five years,
and then got back with
him two years later
thinking he had changed.
We remarried.
Now I find out he cheated
after three years of marriage,
even though they say
they didn't have sex.
Is it adultery if he spent
time with another woman,
but didn't have sex.
Can I leave him?
My trust is gone.
Oh, I think you were
sort of foolish to get
remarried to somebody who
is a serial adulterer.
And I dare say that he's
done the same thing.
The trust is gone.
The marriage bond
has been broken.
And I think, as
far as the Bible,
I would say you
are free to leave.
You don't have to stay in
a relationship like that.
Yeah.
That's it.
I mean, he's
going to philander.
That's his nature.
And if you think
that's good for you,
well, by all means hang around.
But I think you'd be
better off to be free.
Yeah.
Well, there's a
son involved too.
So you need to be careful
what you expose him too.
That's right.
Exactly.
OK.
This is David, Pat, who
says, "I read on the internet
that the church Jesus was
talking about actually
meant congregation, or
assembly of believers, and not
a building.
Also in the Old
Testament God said
he doesn't live in
man made buildings.
So why should we go to
a building every Sunday?
Well, you don't have to go
to a building every Sunday.
But the Bible says don't forsake
assembling yourselves together.
The word in Greek
is ecclecia, which
means the called out ones.
And the called out ones
were in a community.
They would ring the
bell, and call out
an assembly of the people.
They'd come together
in the ecclecia
And that's the church.
The Church is not a building.
You're exactly right.
It's the body of believers.
But going to a building is
not what God talks about.
What he talks about
is get together
with those who love the Lord.
Don't forsake the assembling
of yourself together.
So the term, the one that's
called the assemblies of God,
probably maybe closer to it.
All right.
This is a viewer
who says, "I feel
like when I'm in the will
of God I remain confident.
But once I fall into sexual
sin, that joy and confidence
in myself goes away.
I know I'm nothing
without Jesus,
and I know that we're saved
by grace through faith and not
by our works.
But through the years I've
let God down many, many times.
I just want to be
a good Christian.
I know I'm accepted
in the beloved,
but I feel separated and
sad when I don't please God.
Please help.
How should I go
about handling this?
All right.
David prayed.
You remember, he had
sex with Bathsheba.
And they had a child.
And he killed her husband.
And it was bad stuff.
So he says in the
Psalm, he said,
restore unto me the
joy of my salvation,
and take not your
Holy Spirit from me.
You will not have joy
if you live in sin.
So you say you fall
into sexual sin.
Ask the Lord to forgive you.
He'll do it.
Ask him to cleanse you.
He'll do it.
And then begin to walk in the
liberty of the children of God.
I wish we had longer.
But that's it.
We leave you with
today's power minute.
"The things which are
impossible with men
are possible with God."
We'll see you tomorrow.
Buh-bye.