He uses guilt to remain in my home. What should I do? What can I do to finally end this fear and start enjoying what I do? He says it's hard for him to serve the same God who allowed this. What can help him move past this?
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And welcome back
to "The 700 Club."
It's time to bring it on
with your email questions.
We're going to start with
Jeff, who says, "Last year I
took in a homeless coworker,
a 48-year-old male,
provided him rent.
He smokes several packs a day,
and borrows money and hitches
rides from other coworkers.
He never seems to
have any money.
I treat him to
baseball games, movies.
His eating habits are
unhealthy, as is his hygiene.
He was supposed to
be in an apartment
last fall, but as of today
he still have no residence.
People tell me he's taking
advantage of my kindness."
Do you think so?
"That he has a habit
of using others
and needs to help himself,
and that I'm enabling him.
He uses guilt to
remain in my home.
What should I do?"
Real simple.
Kick him out.
I mean, he's a-- you know,
these so-called gospel bums,
it makes me so sick.
They talk spiritual stuff,
but they're actually--
you know, the Bible says
if a man will not work,
let him not eat.
That's what the
apostle Paul said.
It was tough love.
If the guy isn't
working, don't feed him.
You know?
Exactly.
Yeah.
And that's what it said.
The idea that you have to
supply this guy with money
for cigarettes, and that you're
going to give him a place
to stay, you're gonna give him
free tickets to ballgames--
kick him out.
I mean, you say look,
Charlie, George,
whatever your name is,
this has been interesting,
but you're out.
I can't take this any longer.
You know, your last
day is tomorrow.
Out.
Amen.
I like it.
All right.
Jairo says, "I'm in a
dangerous line of work.
I constantly have a fear of
being assaulted while at work.
I grew up being bullied
most of my life,
and I believe that is
a cause of my anxiety.
I've sought the Lord and have
even been to a few counselors.
I do not take medication,
but I think it might help.
What can I do to
finally end this fear
and start enjoying what I do?"
The Bible says perfect
love casts out fear,
for fear has torment.
Here's the deal-- fear actually
is selfishness, because you
are concerned about yourself.
What is going to happen to me?
Am I going to be assaulted,
am I going to be raped,
am I going to be
robbed, and so forth.
Now, as somebody said, just
because you're paranoid
doesn't mean they're
not trying to get you.
So there may be
some serious danger,
if there is serious danger, I
recommend you get another job.
But if it's just imaginary,
and it sounds like it is, then
what you need to do is focus
on Jesus, on His power,
on His grace, on His love,
and forget about yourself.
That's what's
causing the problem,
you're concerned about you.
All right?
All right.
Elaine says, "The Bible says,
'Delight yourself in the Lord,
and He will give you the
desires of your heart.
But if it's not God's
will, will He still do it?"
The answer is
no, of course not.
I mean, for example, you might
say, I want a million dollars.
You know, I had a
lawyer working for me
who represented a man
who had won the lottery,
and he said it was the most
awful thing that happened.
This guy was destroyed.
His relatives came
looking for a hand out.
Everybody was after him.
He himself was making
unwise decisions.
It destroyed him.
So you say, well, oh,
God, I'd be so happy if I
had an extra million dollars.
Well, and God says no, so
delight yourself in the Lord,
and he'll give you the
desires of your heart.
Well, if you really
parse that a little bit,
you delight yourself
in the Lord,
and He will give you the
desire of your heart, what
is the desire of your heart?
The desire of your
heart is the Lord.
That's the ultimate
satisfaction.
In the Middle Ages they used
to talk of summum bonum.
It was seeing God.
That's the light
of your heart, OK?
Mm.
Good.
All right, Brooke
says, "My husband
is reading the Bible
from front to back
and is greatly disturbed by some
things in the Old Testament,
particularly human sacrifice.
For example, the story
where the warrior promised
God he would sacrifice the first
thing he saw when he got home
in return for victory,
and the first thing he saw
was his daughter.
This is turning into a
stumbling block for my husband.
He says it's hard
for him to serve
the same God who allowed this.
What can help him
move past this?"
Well, he's got to get
a little education,
and what he's got
to recognize is
that what the Bible was
talking about-- you know,
there can be a story
about a criminal
and a story about
a righteous man.
The fact that the
story of the criminal
doesn't mean that the
author is endorsing it,
he's merely recording it.
This guy sacrificed
his daughter.
It was stupid.
It was stupid.
It was a vow he'd made that
was stupid, and he did it,
and it was stupid.
So for your husband
to get all hung up
on some stupidity that
is recorded, it happened,
you know?
There was a Hitler, there was a
Stalin, there was a Mao Zedong.
That doesn't mean that the
historian who records them
is endorsing them.
The Bible isn't
endorsing these things.
So anyhow, that's
the best thing.
One last.
That's a great point.
That's good.
Well, Shanna says, "I've heard
about deliverance ministries
that cast out demons that
cause anger, addictions,
compulsive behaviors,
illnesses, and so forth.
Some also pray for people
who want to be saved,
but have had past involvement in
the occult and satanic worship.
Is this type of
ministry legitimate?"
Some is, and some isn't.
Some people are demon obsessed,
and they make a ministry
out of chasing demons.
The Bible says, if you pursue
evil, evil will come to you.
And to have a ministry
based on casting out demons
is really bad news.
But are there demons?
Yes.
Do they assault people?
Yes.
Is there a ministry in the
Lord of casting them out?
Yes.
But focusing on it?
No.
OK?
Well, we leave you with today's
Power Minute from Psalm 91,
"For He shall give
His angels charge over
you to keep you
in all your ways."