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Bring It On-Line: Guilt and Enabling - April 6, 2016

He uses guilt to remain in my home. What should I do? What can I do to finally end this fear and start enjoying what I do? He says it's hard for him to serve the same God who allowed this. What can help him move past this? Read Transcript


And welcome back to "The 700 Club."

It's time to bring it on with your email questions.

We're going to start with Jeff, who says, "Last year I

took in a homeless coworker, a 48-year-old male,

provided him rent.

He smokes several packs a day, and borrows money and hitches

rides from other coworkers.

He never seems to have any money.

I treat him to baseball games, movies.

His eating habits are unhealthy, as is his hygiene.

He was supposed to be in an apartment

last fall, but as of today he still have no residence.

People tell me he's taking advantage of my kindness."

Do you think so?

"That he has a habit of using others

and needs to help himself, and that I'm enabling him.

He uses guilt to remain in my home.

What should I do?"

Real simple.

Kick him out.

I mean, he's a-- you know, these so-called gospel bums,

it makes me so sick.

They talk spiritual stuff, but they're actually--

you know, the Bible says if a man will not work,

let him not eat.

That's what the apostle Paul said.

It was tough love.

If the guy isn't working, don't feed him.

You know?

Exactly.

Yeah.

And that's what it said.

The idea that you have to supply this guy with money

for cigarettes, and that you're going to give him a place

to stay, you're gonna give him free tickets to ballgames--

kick him out.

I mean, you say look, Charlie, George,

whatever your name is, this has been interesting,

but you're out.

I can't take this any longer.

You know, your last day is tomorrow.

Out.

Amen.

I like it.

All right.

Jairo says, "I'm in a dangerous line of work.

I constantly have a fear of being assaulted while at work.

I grew up being bullied most of my life,

and I believe that is a cause of my anxiety.

I've sought the Lord and have even been to a few counselors.

I do not take medication, but I think it might help.

What can I do to finally end this fear

and start enjoying what I do?"

The Bible says perfect love casts out fear,

for fear has torment.

Here's the deal-- fear actually is selfishness, because you

are concerned about yourself.

What is going to happen to me?

Am I going to be assaulted, am I going to be raped,

am I going to be robbed, and so forth.

Now, as somebody said, just because you're paranoid

doesn't mean they're not trying to get you.

So there may be some serious danger,

if there is serious danger, I recommend you get another job.

But if it's just imaginary, and it sounds like it is, then

what you need to do is focus on Jesus, on His power,

on His grace, on His love, and forget about yourself.

That's what's causing the problem,

you're concerned about you.

All right?

All right.

Elaine says, "The Bible says, 'Delight yourself in the Lord,

and He will give you the desires of your heart.

But if it's not God's will, will He still do it?"

The answer is no, of course not.

I mean, for example, you might say, I want a million dollars.

You know, I had a lawyer working for me

who represented a man who had won the lottery,

and he said it was the most awful thing that happened.

This guy was destroyed.

His relatives came looking for a hand out.

Everybody was after him.

He himself was making unwise decisions.

It destroyed him.

So you say, well, oh, God, I'd be so happy if I

had an extra million dollars.

Well, and God says no, so delight yourself in the Lord,

and he'll give you the desires of your heart.

Well, if you really parse that a little bit,

you delight yourself in the Lord,

and He will give you the desire of your heart, what

is the desire of your heart?

The desire of your heart is the Lord.

That's the ultimate satisfaction.

In the Middle Ages they used to talk of summum bonum.

It was seeing God.

That's the light of your heart, OK?

Mm.

Good.

All right, Brooke says, "My husband

is reading the Bible from front to back

and is greatly disturbed by some things in the Old Testament,

particularly human sacrifice.

For example, the story where the warrior promised

God he would sacrifice the first thing he saw when he got home

in return for victory, and the first thing he saw

was his daughter.

This is turning into a stumbling block for my husband.

He says it's hard for him to serve

the same God who allowed this.

What can help him move past this?"

Well, he's got to get a little education,

and what he's got to recognize is

that what the Bible was talking about-- you know,

there can be a story about a criminal

and a story about a righteous man.

The fact that the story of the criminal

doesn't mean that the author is endorsing it,

he's merely recording it.

This guy sacrificed his daughter.

It was stupid.

It was stupid.

It was a vow he'd made that was stupid, and he did it,

and it was stupid.

So for your husband to get all hung up

on some stupidity that is recorded, it happened,

you know?

There was a Hitler, there was a Stalin, there was a Mao Zedong.

That doesn't mean that the historian who records them

is endorsing them.

The Bible isn't endorsing these things.

So anyhow, that's the best thing.

One last.

That's a great point.

That's good.

Well, Shanna says, "I've heard about deliverance ministries

that cast out demons that cause anger, addictions,

compulsive behaviors, illnesses, and so forth.

Some also pray for people who want to be saved,

but have had past involvement in the occult and satanic worship.

Is this type of ministry legitimate?"

Some is, and some isn't.

Some people are demon obsessed, and they make a ministry

out of chasing demons.

The Bible says, if you pursue evil, evil will come to you.

And to have a ministry based on casting out demons

is really bad news.

But are there demons?

Yes.

Do they assault people?

Yes.

Is there a ministry in the Lord of casting them out?

Yes.

But focusing on it?

No.

OK?

Well, we leave you with today's Power Minute from Psalm 91,

"For He shall give His angels charge over

you to keep you in all your ways."

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