Years of drug addiction left Jim picking up the pieces after a string of business failures. When his marriage began to crumble too, he cried out to God for help.
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Reporter: AFTER MEETING
ON A BLIND DATE, JIM AND
ROBBIE QUICKLY FELL IN
LOVE.
I WANTED TO MARRY MY
WIFE, I THINK FROM THE FIRST
DAY I MET HERMENT.
WE'RE TALKING ON THE
PHONE UNTIL 3:00, 4:00 AND
THE MORNING.
YOU KNOW IT IS SPECIAL.
Reporter: THE COUPLE
MARRIED IN 1984, ROBBIE WAS
A CHRISTIAN AND KNEW JIM
DIDN'T SHARE HER FAITH, BUT
SHE DIDN'T KNOW HIS DARKEST
SECRET.
SHE HAD NO IDEA OF DEPTH
OF MY ADDICTION.
Reporter: JIM HAD BEEN
AN ALCOHOLIC AND DRUG ADDICT
SINCE HIS FIRST DRINK AT AGE
15.
ALCOHOL MADE ME FEEL LIKE
THE PERSON I THOUGHT I COULD
BE.
AND THEN I STARTED DOING
DRUGS.
Reporter: JIM HID HIS
HABIT FROM ROBBIE UNTIL THEY
WERE FIVE YEARS AND TWO
CHILDREN INTO THE MARRIAGE.
I DIDN'T REALLY SEE ANY
RED FLAGS OR DISCONNECT
UNTIL THINGS STARTED
HAPPENING.
HE HAD A REALLY GOOD JOB,
AND ALL OF A SUDDEN WE CAN'T
PAY OUR BILLS AND THINGS
WERE MISSING.
AND THERE IS ALWAYS STORIES
AND EXCUSES AS TO WHERE THE
MONEY HAS GONE.
IT TOOK MORE MORE AND
MORE AND MORE, AND IT WAS
$50 A WEEK OF COCAINE TO
$100 A WEEK UNTIL MY WHOLE
PAYCHECK WAS GOING TO THAT.
Reporter: ONE NIGHT
ROBBIE SAW A TELEVISION AD
THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING.
THIS COMMERCIAL CAME ON
ABOUT DRUG ADDICTION.
I KNOW IT WAS THE HOLY
SPIRIT TELLING ME, THAT'S
WHAT'S GOING ON.
THAT'S WHAT YOU NEED TO
CONFRONT JIM ABOUT.
THE WORLD STARTED CRUMBLING
IN.
IT IS DEVASTATING TO KNOW
YOU HAVE MARRIED SOMEONE AND
ARE LIVING WITH SOMEONE, WHO
IS THE FATHER OF YOUR
CHILDREN, WHO YOU LOVE
DEEPLY, BUT YOU CAN'T TRUST
HIM.
Reporter: AFTER ROBBIE
CONFRONTED HIM, JIM STARTED
A.AA.A. PROGRAMS, BUT FOR
YEARS, JIM'S ADDICTIONS HAD
A POWERFUL HOLD ON HIS
LIFE.
I LIED ABOUT EVERYTHING,
WHERE MY MONEY WAS GOING,
WHAT THIS LOAN WAS FOR.
LIE UPON LIE UPON LIE.
IT CAUSED A LOT OF
CONFLICT.
IT CAUSED A LOT OF FIGHTS.
BECAUSE WHEN HE WOULD COME
HOME AND I KNEW HE WAS
DRINKING, AND THEN THERE IS
JUST A LOT OF YELLING AND
SCREAMING AND YOU GO TO BED
MAD.
HE WOULD BE GONE FOR TWO OR
THREE DAYS AT A TIME, AND I
WOULDN'T KNOW WHERE HE WAS
OR WHAT HE WAS DOING.
Reporter: AFTER YEARS
OF DEALING WITH JIM'S
ADDICTION, ROBBIE CONSIDERED
DIVORCE.
I TELL PEOPLE THAT I
DIVORCED HIM IN MY HEAD
ABOUT EVERY DAY.
I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW MANY
TIMES I TOLD HIM, I CAN'T DO
THIS ANYMORE.
I'M DONE.
Reporter: INSTEAD OF
FILING FOR DIVORCE, ROBBIE
DECIDED TO PRAY.
THE THINGS, I WAS PRAYING
SPECIFICALLY FOR, OF COURSE,
WERE FOR JIM'S SOBRIETY.
I PRAYED FOR STRENGTH.
I WAS TIRED.
I WAS WARN OUT.
I WAS, LIKE, GOD, I KNOW
THAT YOUR WILL FOR HIM IS
NOT TO BE AN ALCOHOLIC/DRUG
ADDICT.
I KNOW THAT IS NOT YOUR WILL
FOR HIS LIFE.
I WOULD SAY THAT HONESTLY I
PRAYED FULLY AND INTENSELY
FOR ABOUT 10 YEARS, FOR GOD
TO JUST REALLY BRING BACK
THE MAN I KNEW THAT HE HAD
CREATED.
EVERY TIME I WENT OUT,
AND I WOULD GO AWAY FOR
THREE OR FOUR DAYS BECAUSE I
WOULD BEGIN TO BLACK OUT, I
WOULD BE AFRAID TO COME HOME
BECAUSE I THOUGHT THAT THE
DOORS WOULD BE LOCKED, BUT
THEY NEVER WERE.
MY WIFE CONTINUED TO ACCEPT
ME AND TAKE ME BACK.
Reporter: ROBBIE PRAYED
FOR YEARS, AND JIM
EVENTUALLY AGREED TO GO TO
CHURCH WITH HER.
I KNEW IF HE WAS IN
CHURCH, HE WAS GETTING FED.
GOD WAS YOU GOING TO USE
WHAT HE WAS HEARING AND
FEELING AND EXPERIENCING.
I ALWAYS KNEW THERE WAS A
GOD, BUT I NEVER FELT WORTHY
OF HIM TO PAY ATTENTION TO
ME.
WE HAD A PRAISE AND WORSHIP
ON SUNDAY NIGHTS, WHERE YOU
WOULD STAND UP AND PRAISE
GOD FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE IN
YOUR LIFE.
I STOOD UP AND SAID, I'M AN
ALCOHOLIC AND I CAN'T STOP.
AND THAT CHURCH, THEY JUST
GATHERED AROUND ME.
I STARTED TO FEEL GOD'S
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE THEN
BECAUSE I FELT IT THROUGH
HIS PEOPLE.
Reporter: JIM DEDICATED
HIS LIFE TO CHRIST, AND GOT
HELP FROM HIS CHURCH FOR HIS
ALCOHOL AND DRUG ABUSE.
IT WAS THREE OR FOUR
YEARS WHERE PEOPLE HELPED ME
ALONG.
THEY DIDN'T JUDGE ME BECAUSE
OF MY ALCOHOLISM.
THEY HELPED ME THROUGH IT.
Reporter: EVEN WITH HIS
NEW FAITH, JIM CONTINUED TO
BATTLE HIS ADDICTIONS UNTIL
2006.
BUT EVERYTHING CHAIMPLEGD
CHANGED ONE RAINY WINTER
DAY.
THAT DAY I MADE THE
CHOICE.
I HID IN THE CLOSET BECAUSE
I DIDN'T WANT TO FACE THE
REALITY OF WHAT THIS WAS
DOING TO MY FAMILY ANYMORE.
I SAID, I CAN'T DO THIS
ANYMORE.
Reporter: JIM TURNED TO
THE BIBLE FOR HOPE.
I WENT TO 1 JOHN 2-3
ABOUT SIN, AND I SAID, GOD,
I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE.
AND HE SAID, I KNOW YOU
CAN'T.
BUT I CAN TAKE IT FROM YOU.
Reporter: JIM SAYS GOD
COMPLETELY DELIVERED HIM
FROM HIS ADDICTIONS THAT
DAY.
I THINK I KNEW IT WAS
IMMEDIATELY GONE BECAUSE THE
WEIGHT HAD LIFTED FROM ME.
IT WAS AMAZING.
AGAIN, IT WAS THAT POINT OF
THE NEXT DAY, I DIDN'T HAVE
TO DRIVE BY THE LIQUOR STORE
FIVE OR SIX TIMES.
I DIDN'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT
AM I GOING DO CALL MY
COCAINE DEALER.
IT WASN'T THERE ANYMORE.
Reporter: ROBBIE SAID
IT TOOK SOME TIME FOR GOD TO
RESTORE THE TRUST IN THEIR
MARRIAGE, BUT SHE SAW A TRUE
CHANGE IN HER HUSBAND.
IT GOT TO THE POINT WHERE
HE WAS COMING HOME FROM WORK
ON TIME.
HE BECAME PART OF THE
FAMILY.
HE BECAME ENGAGED IN WHAT WE
WERE DOING.
THE MARRIAGE BECAME FUN
AGAIN.
WE ARE SPENDING TIME
TOGETHER AND SHARING OUR
LIVES TOGETHER.
Reporter: TODAY, ALMOST
A DECADE LATER, THE COUPLE
IS CLOSER THAN EVER, AND JIM
NEVER TURNED BACK TO HIS OLD
LIFESTYLE.
THEY RUN THEIR OWN MINISTRY
CALLED D.U.I. MINISTRY.
THEY BOTH SAY THEY CAN SEE
THE POWER OF PRAYER IN THEIR
MARRIAGE.
IF GOD HAD NOT
INTERVENED, I WOULD EITHER
BE DIVORCED, DEAD, OR IN
JAIL.
GOD AND MY WIFE WAS THE ONLY
REASON THAT HELD ANY OF THIS
TOGETHER.
IT WAS HER DEVOTION TO GOD
THAT HELPED US TOGETHER.
EVEN IF YOU'RE MARRIED TO
SOMEONE WHO IS NOT A
CHRISTIAN, IF YOU DO WHAT IS
RIGHT, GOD WILL SAVE YOUR
MARRIAGE.
WHAT I WOULD SAY TO THE
WOMEN WHO ARE IN THAT
SITUATION, OR ANY SITUATION
THAT REMOTELY LOOKS LIKE
THAT, DON'T GIVE UP.
GOD HOLDS YOU IN THE PALM OF
HIS HAND.
REACH OUT.
GOD IS FAITHFUL.
WE'VE GOT TO PERSEVERE, NOT
GIVE UP.