When relapsed drug addicts Christina and Steve said, "I do," it was only a matter of time before matrimonial chaos.
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IN OUR MARRIAGE,
EVERYTHING BY THE WORLD'S
STANDARDS WAS ABSOLUTELY
AGAINST US.
THERE WAS NO ONE -- IN FACT,
EVEN SOME CHRISTIANS -- WHO
WOULD SAY THAT WE WOULD
SURVIVE.
Reporter: STEVEN AND
CHRISTINA MARRIED THREE
MONTHS AFTER THEY MET.
HE WAS A METH USER WHO HAD
DONE PRISON TIME FOR
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
CHRISTINA WAS TWICE DIVORCED
AND HAD TWO CHILDREN AT
HOME.
I THOUGHT IT WAS GOING TO
BE HAPPY-GO-LUCKY, AND IT
WAS ANYTHING BUT THAT.
WE MARRIED QUICKLY, IN
CO-DEPENDENCE, IN ADDICTION,
AND IN AN UNHEALTHY MENTAL
AND EMOTIONAL STATE.
RIGHT AFTER WE GOT MARRIED,
I WAS PREGNANT.
WITH THAT EXCITEMENT WAS
HELL.
I WASN'T REALLY LOOKING
TO BE A DAD.
NO.
I WAS TOO BUSY GETTING
HIGH.
Reporter: STEVEN WAS
ORPHANED AS A CHILD AND
NEVER LEARNED TO DEAL WITH
CONFLICT.
IT WAS SO FRUSTRATING TO
NOT BE ABLE TO DISPLAY MY
EMOTIONS.
SO IT WAS FROM ZERO TO
ANGER, AND I WOULD EXPLODE.
Reporter: EARLY INTO
THEIR MARRIAGE, STEVEN'S
ANGER ERUPTED.
I CAN'T REMEMBER ALL THAT
HAPPENED, BUT I HAD -- I
LAID MY HAND ON MY WIFE, AND
SHE FELL ON THE GROUND.
HE DRANK ALCOHOL, AND HE
JUST BLACKED OUT AND HE JUST
STARTED BEATING ME.
HE BROKE MY FACE, AND IN
FRONT OF THE KIDS.
AND HE ENDED UP GOING TO
PRISON FOR A SHORT WHILE.
Reporter: AS PART OF
HIS SENTENCE, STEVEN WENT TO
COUNSELLING AND TOOK STEPS
TO RESTORE THEIR MARRIAGE.
HE WANTED OUR MARRIAGE TO
BE SUCCESSFUL.
HE HAD NO CLUE HOW.
I THINK HE HAD HAD
COUNSELLING BEFORE FOR
AGGRESSION, BUT THIS TIME HE
WENT INTO IT WITH A "WANT
TO."
I WANT TO GET ON THE OTHER
SIDE OF ANGER.
THE MARRIAGE WAS NOT
GOING GOOD AT ALL.
I WAS WILLING TO TRY
ANYTHING.
Reporter: ONE AFTERNOON
STEVEN NOTICED A CHURCH NEAR
HIS SON'S SOCCER PRACTICE.
HE WALKED IN AND ASKED TO
TALK TO A PASTOR.
I DIDN'T KNOW WHY I WENT
INTO THAT CHURCH.
I JUST KNOW I NEEDED HELP.
I LOOKED IN HIS EYES, AND I
SAID, I NEED HELP.
AND HE SAID, YOU NEED
JESUS.
Reporter: CHRISTINA MET
STEVEN WITH DIVORCE PAPERS
IN HAND.
TWO PASTORS HAD BEEN
MEETING WITH HIM DURING THAT
PRAYER TIME.
AT THAT PRAYER, I FELT
PEACE.
YOU KNOW?
I FELT REAL PEACE.
I FELT COMFORT THAT THERE
WAS HOPEç FOR MY MARRIAGE.
I TOLD HIM.
AND I SAID, ALL RIGHT, THIS
IS FINALLY IT.
IT IS THE ALL BOTTOM LOW.
YOU SAY YOUR GOD CAN FIX
IT.
SO YOU HAVE HIM FIX IT.
OTHERWISE, HERE ARE THE
PAPERS.
I'M DONE.
Reporter: EVEN THOUGH
SHE WAS HESITANT AT FIRST,
THEY STARTED ATTENDING
CHURCH AND MARRIAGE
COUNSELLING.
SOON BOTH BECAME CHRISTIANS
AND SAW POSITIVE CHANGES IN
THEIR LIVES.
THE CHANGE IN MY HEART IS
WHEN I THINK WE REALLY
STARTED COMING TOGETHER.
I CONSISTENTLY, YOU KNOW,
PRAYED TO GOD.
I CONSISTENTLY LET HIM SHAPE
AND MOLD ME.
WHEN WE SINCERELY DECIDED
TO LET GOD ACTUALLY DO THE
WORK AND SIT BACK AND BE
OBEDIENT TO WHAT HIS
INSTRUCTIONS WERE, THINGS
WERE BROKEN OFF.
PERMANENTLY.
DRUG ADDICTION, BROKEN OFF.
PHYSICAL ABUSE, BROKEN OFF.
THERE WAS A LOT OF BAD
BEHAVIOR BROKEN OFF
COMPLETELY.
Reporter: AND THEY ALSO
COMMITTED TO A 10-WEEK
COURSE ON MARRIAGE
COUNSELLING THAT GAVE THEM
TOOLS ON HOW TO EFFECTIVELY
COMMUNICATE WITH EACH
OTHER.
IT WAS SO HARD, BUT IT
WAS THE FIRST TIME WE EACH
LOOKED AT OURSELVES
HONESTLY.
AND IT WAS A MESS.
AS A WOMAN, ONE OF THE FIRST
THINGS I LET THAT WAS THE
MOST DIFFICULT WAS LETTING
GOD DEAL WITH STEVEN IN
GOD'S WAY, AND NOT IN MY
WAY.
AND THAT'S WHEN I STARTED
APPRECIATED SEEING WHAT GOD
WAS DOING.
IT TOOK A LOAD OFF, AND THE
RESULTS WERE WAY BETTER.
Reporter: TODAY THEIR
MARRIAGE IS HAPPY AND
HEALTHY.
THEY SAY PUTTING JESUS AT
THE CENTER OF THEIR LIVES
HAS BEEN THE KEY TO THEIR
SUCCESS.
ALL OF MY HOPE COMES FROM
HIM.
AND HE CONTINUES TO GIVE ME
HOPE.
STUFF TODAY THAT WOULD HAVE
KNOCKED ME DOWN YEARS AGO, I
DON'T EVEN WOBBLE TODAY.
I KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO
LIVE WITHOUT HIM, AND I KNOW
WHAT IT'S LIKE TO LIVE WITH
HIM.
AND IT'S AMAZING.
YOU HAVE TO KNOW GOD FOR
GOD.
AND LET GOD BE GOD.
OTHERWISE THINGS WILL NOT
CHANGE.
SO I'M VERY, VERY THANKFUL
THAT I WAS BLESSED TO SEE
THOSE MOMENTS WITH GOD.
AND NOW I THINK, OH, YES.
Reporter: STEVEN AND
CHRISTINA SAY THEY ARE
GRATEFUL THEY SERVE A GOD
WHO RESTORES BROKEN LIVES.
SHE'S A GREAT WIFE.
SHE'S MY FRIEND.
SHE'S MY BEST FRIEND.
SHE'S BEAUTIFUL.
SHE'S GOT A LOT OF PATIENCE
TO PUT UP WITH ME.
YES, I HAVE AN AMAZING
HUSBAND.
AND, YES, I'M MORE IN LOVE
WITH HIM TODAY THAN I HAVE
EVER BEEN.
BUT I EXCITED BECAUSE I'M
EXCITED TO HOW MANY
GENERATIONS FORWARD DO I GET
TO SEE.
SO IT IS OUTSIDE OF JUST OUR
MARRIAGE NOW.
WE STARTED INCLUDING BIBLE
STUDIES FOR OUR CHILDREN
EVERY DAY.
THEY'RE VERY ENTHUSIASTIC,
AND WE GET EXCITED BECAUSE
NOW IT IS STARTING TO LIVE.
JESUS IN THE MIDDLE OF
OUR MARRIAGE.
IF I TRUST JESUS IN MY LIFE,
AND I TRUST THE JESUS IN ME,
THEN THERE IS NOTHING HER
AND I CAN'T GET THROUGH.
NOTHING.
WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE
POSSIBLE.
THERE IS NO DOUBT ABOUT
THAT.