Wendy: LINDA WRITES, "I

KNOW SOMEONE WHO IS

SELF-EMPLOYED AND DIDN'T

HAVE A LARGE INCOME.

IN FACT, HE WAS GOING

WITHOUT MEDICATION HE NEEDS

BECAUSE HE CAN NO LONGER

AFFORD IT.

I'M LIVING PAYCHECK TO

PAYCHECK, AND I WOULD LIKE

TO HELP OUT.

BUT FRANKLY, I DON'T HAVE

MUCH LEFT AFTER GIVING 10%

OF MY INCOME TO THE CHURCH.

IS IT OKAY TO TITHE TO A

FAMILY MEMBER?"

Pat: I HATE TO QUENCH

THIS BENEVOLENT SPIRIT, BUT

I THINK GIVING TO YOUR

FAMILY IS LIKE GIVING TO

YOURSELF.

BY ALL MEANS, LOOK AFTER

YOUR FAMILY.

BUT THAT DOESN'T COUNT AS

TITHING.

BUT, I MEAN, MAYBE YOU CAN

HELP HIM A LITTLE BIT.

AND THERE MAY BE WAYS THAT

HE CAN GET MEDICINE A LITTLE

CHEAPER.

YOU KNOW, IF YOU CHECK THE

INTERNET, IT IS AMAZING.

SOMETIMES MEDICINE OVERSEAS

IS ONE-TENTH THE COST OF

WHAT IT IS IN AMERICA, AND

THEY CAN SHIP STUFF IN.

DON'T GET SOME FRAUD OUT

THERE, OBVIOUSLY, BUT THERE

ARE SOME GOOD ONES THAT ARE

HONORABLE.

INVESTIGATE AROUND.

BUT THAT DOESN'T COUNT AS

TITHING.

WHAT'S NEXT?

Wendy: BARBARA WRITES,

"WHEN PEOPLE HAVE A

NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCE, CAN

THEY REALLY SEE WHAT HEAVEN

IS LIKE?

WOULD THEY REALLY SEE THEIR

LOVED ONES IN HUMAN FORM?

WOULD GOD LET THAT HAPPEN

AND THEN LET THEM GO BACK TO

EARTH TO TELL PEOPLE?"

Pat: WHEN YOU SAY WOULD

HE LET IT HAPPEN -- IT'S

HAPPENED TO MANY, MANY.

WE'VE DONE SPOTS ON THAT.

THERE WAS A MAN NAMED HOWARD

CANNESSER, AND HE DIED IN

THE PULPIT.

THEY WOKE HIM UP, AND THE

FIRST THING SOME OF HIS

CHURCH MEMBERS SAID, PASTOR,

WHAT DID YOU SEE?

IT IS AMAZING.

THEY HAVE COME BACK AND

DESCRIBED THIS WONDERFUL

EXPERIENCE.

I GIVE IT VALIDITY.

I THINK THEY ARE FOR REAL.

Wendy: A VIEWER WRITES,

"I'M A NEW CHRISTIAN, AND I

HAVE BEEN TEMPTED MANY TIMES

TO HAVE SEX.

I AM NOT MARRIED, AND I KNOW

I SHOULD NOT, BUT THE URGES

ARE SO STRONG.

WHAT SHOULD I DO TO RUN AWAY

FROM THIS PROBLEM?"

Pat: I CAN ONLY QUOTE

THE BIBLE.

I DON'T KNOW IF YOUR MALE OR

FEMALE, BUT THE URGES ARE

THERE.

GOD MADE US SEXUAL BEINGS.

THERE IS NOTHING SINFUL

ABOUT BEING THE WAY GOD MADE

YOU.

HE DID THAT SO THAT WE WOULD

REPRODUCE AND CARRY ON THE

RACE.

SO SEX IS PLEASURABLE, AND

THERE IS A DESIRE, MALE AND

FEMALE.

NOW, THE BIBLE SAYS IT'S

BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO BURN

WITH LUST.

THAT IS THE WORD OF THE

APOSTLE PAUL.

SO YOU SAY, HOW DO I RUN

AWAY FROM IT?

I JUST CAN'T TELL YOU HOW TO

RUN AWAY FROM WHAT YOU ARE.

BUT I DO KNOW IN THE BONDS

OF MATRIMONY, SEXUAL

RELATIONS ARE PERFECTLY

LEGITIMATE.

Wendy: SHIRLEY WRITES,

"WHEN THE BIBLE TELLS US TO

TITHE 10% OF OUR INCOME,

DOES THAT INCLUDE MONEY THAT

WE RECEIVED, FOR EXAMPLE,

FROM SELLING A CAR?"

Pat: IF YOU'RE SELLING

A CAR AT A PROFIT, GOD BLESS

YOU, YOU'RE IN THE TINY,

TINY MEGA.

I MAJORITY.

ONLY THE PROFIT.

NOT THE WHOLE AMOUNT OF THE

CAR.

Wendy: WHAT ABOUT THE

MONEY -- IF YOU GET MONEY

BACK FROM THE GOVERNMENT?

YOUR TAX RETURN.

SHOULD YOU TITHE ON THAT?

Pat: IF YOU CONSIDER

THAT ADDITIONAL INCOME, YOU

TITHE ON THAT.

YOU GET IT BACK FROM THE

GOVERNMENT, THAT MEANS IT IS

INCOME.

Wendy: CLAIRE

WRITES, "GOD GAVE ME A VOICE

TO SING, AND I WANT TO

GLORIFY GOD WITH MY VOICE.

BUT MY CHRISTIAN FRIENDS

HAVE ASKED ME TO STOP

PERFORMING SPECIAL MUSIC IN

CHURCH.

THEY SAY MY SINGING ONLY

GLORIFIES MYSELF AND NOT

GOD.

WHAT AM I TO DO HERE?"

Pat: WE ARE TO THINK

SOLELY ABOUT OUR GICHTS

GIFTS AND TALENTS.

MAYBE YOU AREN'T AS GIFTED

AS YOU THINK YOU ARE, AND

YOUR CHURCH MEMBERS ARE

TRYING TO TELL YOU NICELY TO

KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT.

Wendy: OR MAYBE THEIR

JEALOUS.

Pat: I DOUBT THAT.

TAKE VOICE LESSONS.

GET A FRANK APPRAISAL.

Wendy: "MY 14-YEAR-OLD

DAUGHTER WAS INVITED TO A

SLEEPOVER AT MY FRIEND'S

HOUSE.

I LATER FOUND OUT THAT

ANOTHER PERSON WOULD BE

SPENDING THE NIGHT AT THE

HOUSE, A MALE FRIEND.

I CALLED THE MOM, AND SHE

TOLD ME THERE WAS NO

PROBLEM.

AND SHE EVEN TOLD ME SHE

PRAYED ABOUT THE SITUATION,

AND GOD HAD GIVEN HER

PEACE.

WOULD GOD REALLY DO THAT?

IN CASE YOU WERE WONDERING,

MY DAUGHTER STAYED HOME THAT

NIGHT."

Pat: YOU'RE NOT

OVERREACTING AT

ALL.

I THOUGHT GIRLS HAD THEIR

HAIR

UP IN CURLERS -- IT

DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE.

I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT, WHY

ANYBODY WOULD BRING A BOY

INTO A BUNCH OF LITTLE

TEENAGED GIRLS --

Wendy: IT'S TOTALLY

INAPPROPRIATE.

Pat:

NOT ONLY

INAPPROPRIATE, BUT IT'S

STUPID.

Wendy: IT IS PROBABLY

THE BOYFRIEND OF ONE OF THE

LITTLE GIRLFRIENDS.

Pat: WELL THEY SHOULD

HAVE ANOTHER VENUE.

MOTHER, YOU WERE DOING THE

RIGHT THING TO

KEEP YOUR

DAUGHTER OUT OF THAT

SITUATION.

Wendy: THANK YOU SO

MUCH, PAT.

GREAT ANSWERS AND SOME GREAT

QUESTIONS.

KEEP THEM COMING.