Matt's addiction to pornography was a dirty little secret until it escalated to sex with a prostitute.
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THERE WERE TIMES WHERE I
HEARD THEM.
I WAS CONFUSED, VERY
CONFUSED.
THERE WAS EVEN A TIME OR TWO
THAT I CAN RECALL WHERE I
WAS IN THE SAME ROOM.
Reporter: THE SOUNDS
MATT REMEMBERS MOST AS A BOY
CAME FROM HIS MOTHER'S
BEDROOM WHEN HER VARIOUS
BOYFRIENDS SLEPT OVER.
ON A VISIT TO HIS DAD'S, HE
LEARNED WHAT THOSE SOUNDS
WERE WHEN HE FOUND PORN
MAGAZINES AND ADVICE.
SECRETLY WATCHING THE VIDEOS
BECAME A HIGHLIGHT OF HIS
VISITS.
I FELT A SENSE OF
CURIOSITY, EXCITEMENT.
TO ME IT WAS NORMAL BECAUSE
THAT'S ALL I WITNESSED.
THAT'S ALL I WAS AROUND.
I GOT GOOD AT FIGURING OUT
HOW TO HIGH IT, CONCEAL IT.
IT BECAME A WAY OF LIFE,
MANIPULATING AND LYING AND
HIDING.
Reporter: WHEN MATT
TOOK A JOB IN LAS VEGAS
AFTER HIGH SCHOOL, HIS
BOYHOOD FASCINATION WITH
PORN TURNED INTO AN
OBSESSION WITH SEX.
HE DISCOVERED NUDE CLUBS.
AND NOW SEX WAS ALWAYS ON
HIS MIND.
DEFINITELY IN MY HEAD AND
THOUGHTS, YOU KNOW.
IT WAS SOMETHING I COULD GO
RIGHT TO WHEN I WAS BORED,
STRESSED, WHATEVER IT IS.
I JUST WANTED TO ESCAPE FOR
A SECOND.
Reporter: WHEN HE
WASN'T ON THE VEGAS STRIP,
HE WAS ON THE INTERNET.
HIS ADDICTION GREW STRONGER
UNTIL HE WAS WATCHING PORN
SEVERAL TIMES A DAY, EVEN ON
HIS PHONE.
NOW I HAVE INTERNET
ACCESS IN MY POCKET
EVERYWHERE I GO, ANYWHERE.
Reporter: AND THEN HE
MET AMY, AND IT WASN'T LONG
BEFORE SHE BECAME
MRS. KOWALSKI, BUT MATT HAD
NO INTENTION OF STOPPING HIS
SECRET HABIT.
I DIDN'T THINK ANYTHING
WAS WRONG ABOUT THE FACT I
LOOKED AT PORNOGRAPHY WHILE
IN A COMMITTED
RELATIONSHIP.
I GOT IN MY MIND I WASN'T
CHEATING.
IT WAS OKAY.
IT WAS IMAGES AND FANTASY,
ULTIMATELY.
Reporter: SOON THEY
STARTED A FAMILY, AND AMY
NEVER SUSPECTED MATT'S
OBSESSION WITH PORN.
SHE THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS
FINE UNTIL SHE DISCOVERED
THE SITES ON THE FAMILY
COMPUTER.
I FELT SHOCKED.
I FELT LIKE THERE WAS THIS
SECRET, LIKE I DIDN'T KNOW
HIM.
I INSTANTLY FELT SICK TO MY
STOMACH.
Reporter: MATT PROMISED
AMY HE WOULDN'T DO IT AGAIN,
BUT IT WAS AN EMPTY PROMISE
BECAUSE BY NOW MATT HAD NO
CONTROL OVER HIS ADDICTION.
I NEED MORE.
MY THRESHOLD GROWS, AND I
NEED TO SEEK OUT DIFFERENT
IMAGES, DIFFERENT
PORNOGRAPHY, DIFFERENT
THINGS.
Reporter: AS THEIR
FAMILY GREW, AMY BELIEVED
MATT HAD PUT THE PORN BEHIND
HIM.
SHE WAS WRONG.
INSTEAD, MATT STEPPED DEEPER
INTO HIS OBSESSION.
IMAGES WERE NO LONGER
ENOUGH.
WHEN HE FOUND A WEBSITE FOR
A VEGAS CALL GIRL SERVICE,
MATT MADE AN APPOINTMENT AND
FOLLOWED THROUGH.
I FELT ASHAMED.
I JUST FELT LIKE I WAS IN
THIS DARKNESS, ALONE, DIRTY,
PATHETIC, GUILTY.
I KNEW IF I WOULD CONFESS
THIS, THAT WOULD BE THE END
OF OUR FAMILY, OUR
MARRIAGE.
CAN I USE YOUR PHONE.
Reporter: BUT AMY
DISCOVERED MATT'S UGLY
SECRET.
SHE BORROWED HIS CELL PHONE,
AND THE PROSTITUTE WEBSITE
PROPPED UP IN HIS BROWSER.
TELL ME WHAT THIS IS?
I CAN'T SEE IT.
HE WANTED TO GET THE
PHONE AWAY FROM ME AND
DELETE IT BEFORE I COULD SEE
MORE.
GIVE ME THE PHONE AND
WE'LL TALK ABOUT IT.
ABSOLUTELY NOT.
AMY!
AMY!
Reporter: MATT TOLL AMY
THE TRUTH.
IT WAS NOTHING THAT WAS
EVER ON MY RADAR, ANYTHING I
WOULD EVER EXPECT.
I FELT LIKE I HAD BEEN
PUNCHED IN THE STOMACH.
I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO
THINK.
IT IS LIKE EVERYTHING HAD
JUST CRUMBLED COMPLETELY
APART IN FRONT OF MY FACE AT
THAT MOMENT.
GET OUT OF MY WAY.
Reporter: AMY TOLD MATT
SHE WAS LEAVING.
HE-LEGGED HEHE BEGGED HER
TO STAY AND PROMISED TO GET
HELP.
RELUCTANTLY SHE AGREED.
HE WENT INTO A COUNSELLING
PROGRAM BASED ON CHRISTIAN
PRINCIPLES.
BUT MATT WASN'T INTERESTED
IN LEARNING ABOUT GOD.
HE JUST WANTED HELP.
WE DID A LOT OF WORK ON
GETTING DOWN TO THE FAMILY
DYNAMICS, THAT REALLY WAS
THE DRIVING BEHAVIORS IN MY
LIFE THAT WAS RUNNING FROM,
IGNORING.
THROUGH THAT PROCESS, GOD
BEGAN WORKING ON MY HEART.
Reporter: MATT REALIZED
THE ONLY WAY TO BE HEALED
FROM HIS ADDICTION WAS TO
SURRENDER HIS LIFE TO JESUS
CHRIST.
WHEN I ASKED CHRIST INTO
MY HEART, INTO MY LIFE, AND
TO LEAD ME AND TO HEAL ME
AND TO DIRECT MY LIFE, AND
TO SHOW ME HIM, I FELT
LIGHTER.
I FELT LIKE I WASN'T AS
HEAVY, LIKE A WEIGHT WAS
LIFTED OFF MY SHOULDERS,
LIKE THERE WAS HOPE.
Reporter: GOD WAS
WORKING IN AMY'S HEART, TOO,
WHILE ATTENDING FAMILY
SESSIONS OFFERED BY MATT'S
PROGRAM.
I SAW THE PEOPLE THAT I
WANTED TO HAVE THE LIFE LIKE
THEY DID, AND I WANTED TO
HAVE THE MARRIAGES THEY DID
AND THE FAMILIES THEY DID.
AND I SAW THAT GOD WAS THE
COMMON DENO DENOMINATOR IN
EVERYTHING THEY HAD.
AND I SAW THIS PEACE I HAD
NEVER SEEN BEFORE, AND
HAPPINESS AND JOY.
Reporter: AMY ACCEPTED
JESUS CHRIST AS HER SAVIOR.
I STARTED TO FEEL LIKE
THERE WAS A LIFE, AND I
WOULD BE OKAY, REGARDLESS OF
WHAT HAPPENED.
AND I BEGAN TO FIND WHO I
WAS IN HIM, AND THAT I WAS
OKAY.
BECAUSE I QUESTIONED MYSELF
SO MUCH OF WHAT WAS WRONG
WITH ME THAT MY HUSBAND
WOULDN'T WANT ME, THAT I WAS
OKAY.
THAT I WAS PERFECT IN WHO
GOD SAID I WAS AND WHO HE
CREATED ME TO BE.
Reporter: MATT ASKED
AMY FOR FORGIVENESS, AND NOW
REAL HEALING COULD BEGIN.
HE WAS BECOMING A
DIFFERENT MAN.
IT WAS BETTER THAN WHEN WE
FIRST GOT MARRIED.
THE HONEYMOON STAGE CAME
MUCH LATER FOR US.
IT CAME AFTER WE GAVE
OURSELVES TO CHRIST.
WE HAD THE INTIMACY WE NEVER
THOUGHT WAS POSSIBLE.
Reporter: TODAY MATT
AND AMY HAVE A MARRIAGE
BASED ON THE FOUNDATION OF
JESUS CHRIST.
WITH CHRIST, OUR MARRIAGE
IS RESTORED.
OUR MARRIAGE IS
STRENTHENED.
OUR MARRIAGE IS JOYFUL.
WITH CHRIST, OUR MARRIAGE
HAS FORGIVENESS, GRACE, AND
A FUTURE.