Tomasa's abusive relationship began in high school and continued into marriage. By the time she escaped, she had lost her identity and self worth.
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I ALWAYS HAD BRUISES ON MY CHEEKS,
ON MY ARMS.
I FELT AT THE TIME THAT IT WAS
WRONG.
HOW COULD HE DO THAT TO ME?
WHY WOULD HE HURT ME AND MAKE
ME CRY?
BUT I JUST LET IT HAPPEN.
I THOUGHT THAT MY LOVE WOULD
CHANGE HIM.
SHE FELL IN LOVE YOUNG AND
SHE FELL HARD.
SHE WAS JUST 14 YEARS OLD WHEN
SHE MET HER HIGH SCHOOL
SWEETHEART.
IT WAS MY FIRST BOYFRIEND,
MY FIRST LOVE.
HE WAS JUST GIVING ME LOVE AND
ATTENTION AND THAT'S SOMETHING
THAT I YEARNED FOR.
BY THE TIME SHE WAS 16 SHE
AND HER BOYFRIEND WERE SEXUALLY
ACTIVE.
THAT WASN'T HER ONLY SECRET.
SHE ALSO HID HER BOYFRIEND'S
ANGER.
HE STARTED BEING REALLY
CONTROLLING AND YOU'RE THE ONLY
GIRL FOR ME AND IF I CAN'T HAVE
YOU, NOBODY ELSE CAN HAVE YOU.
I THOUGHT I LOVED HIM AND
THOUGHT THAT THIS IS JUST A
PHASE.
HE WILL STOP DOING WHAT HE'S
DOING.
SHE COULDN'T CHANGE HIM AND
THE ABUSE DIDN'T STOP.
WE BROKE UP.
MY MOM TOLD HIM YOU'RE NOT
ALLOWED TO COME OVER HERE.
ONE DAY HE CAME TO MY HOUSE IN
HIS CAR AND HE CAME KNOCKING AT
THE DOOR AND.
WHEN SHE CAME OUTSIDE HE
KIDNAPPED HER.
HE GRABBED ME AND THREW ME
IN THE CAR AND TOOK OFF CRAZY
AND I JUST REMEMBER SCREAMING
AND CRYING AND TRYING TO GET
OUT OF THE CAR.
HE HELD ME BY THE HAIR AND SAID
YOU WILL DIE TONIGHT.
IF I CAN'T HAVE YOU, NOBODY CAN
HAVE YOU.
SHE MANAGED TO JUMP FROM THE
CAR AND RUN HOME.
HE WAS SENT TO JAIL.
WHEN HE GOT OUT OF PRISON AND
CONTACTED HER SHE GOT SUCKED
BACK INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.
HE WASN'T BEING ABUSIVE IN
THE BEGINNING.
WE WERE HAVING FUN AND HE WAS
BEING PERFECT.
THEY MARRIED WHEN SHE WAS 21.
BUT JUST ONE YEAR LATER, THE
ABUSE STARTED AGAIN.
I HAD TO DO WHATEVER HE SAID.
NOW IT WAS WORSE BECAUSE I WAS
HIS WIFE AND NOW I REALLY
BELONGED TO HIM.
HE WANTED ME TO LOOK LIKE A
BARBIE DOLL.
I HAD A BREAST AUGMENTATION, I
WAS HAVING PLASTIC SURGERIES.
HE JUST WANTED ME TO BE WHAT HE
WANTED, NOT WHAT I WANTED.
EVEN WITH ALL THE CHANGES
HER HUSBAND STILL WASN'T
SATISFIED.
HE HAD A NEW REQUEST.
HE WANTED HER TO STRIP.
I AM THINKING WHAT?
I HAD NEVER EVEN BEEN TO A
STRIP CLUB.
I WAS HURT BECAUSE I THOUGHT
THAT IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY WHY
WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE ELSE TO
SEE THEIR BODY?
I WAS ALWAYS WANTING TO PLEASE
HIM.
SHE STARTED STRIPPING.
I WAS AFRAID OF HIM AND I
KEPT TELLING HIM I DIDN'T WANT
TO DO IT AND I WAS EMBARRASSED
AND I DIDN'T WANT TO SHOW MY
BODY AND I WAS REALLY SCARED
AND NERVOUS.
SHE ALSO BEGAN DRINKING.
I HATED DOING WHAT I WAS
DOING AND THE ALCOHOL MADE ME
NOT CARE.
NOT THINK ABOUT WHAT I WAS
DOING.
AT HOME, THE ABUSE ONLY GOT
WORSE.
FINALLY, SHE HAD HAD ENOUGH.
I GOT SO FREAKED OUT THAT I
WAS LIKE OH MY GOD, WHAT IF HE
ACCIDENTALLY KILLS ME?
AND I JUST SAID I HAVE TO GET
OUT.
I'VE GOT TO GET OUT OF HERE.
SHE LEFT HER HUSBAND AND TWO
YEARS LATER THEIR DIVORCE WAS
FINAL.
I JUST FELT LIKE I GOT
MARRIED AND I THOUGHT THAT
MARRIAGE WAS SO SACRED.
SHE MANAGED TO HOLD DOWN A
REGULAR JOB FOR A WHILE AND DID
MODELING ON THE SIDE.
EVENTUALLY WENT BACK TO
STRIPPING FOR EASY MONEY.
SOCIETY WAS TELLING ME THAT
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, SEX SELLS.
USE YOUR BODY.
USE YOUR FACE.
USE WHAT YOU'VE GOT.
SHE HATED WHO SHE HAD BECOME.
I SAID I'M TIRED OF THIS
LIFE AND TIRED OF DANCING.
HATE MY LIFE.
I CRIED OUT TO GOD AND I SAID
PLEASE, JUST GET ME OUT OF THIS
SITUATION.
A FEW DAYS LATER SHE MET A
YOUNG ACTOR AT A MODELING EVENT
IN VEGAS.
THE TWO STARTED A LONG DISTANCE
RELATIONSHIP.
AFTER A FEW WEEKS OF TALKING
HE CALLED HER UP AND MADE A
CONFESSION.
HE SAID I HAVE ALWAYS HAD A
STRUGGLE WITH GOD.
I REALLY WANT TO GET MY LIFE
TOGETHER AND I WANT TO BE HAPPY
AND I WANT TO SERVE GOD BUT I
KNOW IT'S HARD.
HE SAID I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN
DO IT BY MYSELF.
HE SAID, YOU KNOW, I'M GOING TO
THIS SEMINAR, IT'S A CHRISTIAN
SEMINAR AND DO YOU THINK THAT
MAYBE YOU WOULD WANT TO GO?
SHE WENT WITH HIM AND HEARD A
WOMAN SHARE HER TESTIMONY OF
COMING TO CHRIST AND LEAVING
HER JOB AS A STRIPPER.
THE GIRL CAME UP TO ME AND
SAID GOD TOLD HER TO COME AND
TALK TO ME.
THAT'S WHEN I KNEW THIS WAS GOD.
I JUST REMEMBER CRYING AND
SAYING, YOU KNOW, THIS IS TIME.
I NEED TO GIVE MY LIFE TO GOD.
I NEED TO STOP DOING WHAT I'M
DOING AND THAT'S THE DAY THAT I
GOT SAVED.
AFTER THAT, I COULDN'T GO BACK
TO DANCING.
SINCE BEING SAVED I NEVER WENT
BACK TO ANYTHING.
GOD HEALED ME OVERNIGHT.
HE ALSO ACCEPTED CHRIST
DURING THE SEMINAR.
ONE MONTH LATER HE PROPOSED TO
HER.
TODAY THEY'RE MARRIED AND
SERVING GOD TOGETHER.
I ALWAYS FELT LIKE I WAS
ALONE AND LONELY.
NOW BEING SAVED GOD SAID YOU
ARE NEVER ALONE.
GOD WANTS TO BE THE ONE TO FILL
OUR CUP AND HE WANTS TO BE THE
ONE WE CRY OUT TO.
I CRIED OUT TO GOD AND SAID
HELP ME, I CAN'T DO IT ANYMORE.
I NEED A WAY OUT, SHOW ME.
HE DID.
I'M GLAD HE DID IT WHEN HE DID IT.