WE HAD THE KIND OF

MARRIAGE PEOPLE WOULD LOOK

AT AND GO, OKAY, I WANT A

MARRIAGE LIKE THAT WHEN I

GROW UP.

WE LOVED DOING LIFE

TOGETHER.

WE LOVED OUR CHILDREN.

WE LOVED EVERYTHING THAT WE

DID.

WE WERE LEADERS OF THE

CHURCH.

Reporter: BOB AND

AUDREY MET IN BIBLE

COLLEGE.

WE WOULD TALK ABOUT

EVERYTHING, ALL THE TIME,

JUST SHARING OUR LIVES AND

DREAMS AND HOPES TOGETHER.

I WAS COMPLETELY ENTHRALLED

BY HER.

I FELT SO SAFE WITH BOB

BECAUSE HE LOVED GOD.

I FELT LIKE I COULD BE WITH

HIM FOREVER.

Reporter: THEY MARRIED,

STARTED A FAMILY, AND DOVE

INTO MINISTRY WORK.

THEY HAD BIG DREAMS FOR THE

FUTURE.

WITH OUR DESIRE TO BE

WORLD CHANGE.

(LUNCH RECESS TAKEN.),

WORLD -- CHANGERS, WHAT YOU

HAVE TO DO IS WORK.

I HAD NO CLUE HOW HARD IT

WOULD BE.

HE COULD EASILY CONFRONT

ME IF SOMETHING WAS WRONG.

SO I MADE A VOW IN MY HEART,

I AM GOING TO DO EVERYTHING

POSSIBLE SO HE WOULD NEVER

YELL AT ME AGAIN.

I BECAME THE ULTIMATE

PERFORMER AND PLEASER.

Reporter: THE HARD WORK

OF MINISTRY TOOK A TOLL ON

AUDREY, WHO WAS AFRAID TO

SPEAK UP.

THE BUSYNESS GOT SO

TIRING AND EXHAUSTING.

I REMEMBER STUFFING DOWN

THOSE FEELINGS BECAUSE I

KNEW BOB LOVED THE CHURCH.

SO I COULD NEVER TELL HIM

HOW I FELT.

Reporter: THIS

CONTINUED FOR YEARS.

AND THEN A FAMILY FRIEND

FROM CHURCH BEGAN SPENDING

MORE TIME WITH THE

WISENERS.

SH HE WAS EXTREMELY

ENERGETIC.

HE WAS YOUNG.

HE REMINDED ME OF BEING A

KID AGAIN.

HE DIDN'T HAVE A FAMILY,

SO IT WAS NATURAL AT THE

BEGINNING, THAT WE WOULD

INVITE HIM TO FAMILY

HOLIDAYS AND SO FORTH.

Reporter: BUT THIS NEW

FAMILY FRIEND BEGAN GIVING

ATTENTION TO AUDREY.

HE WOULD OVERLY FLIRT

WITH ME.

YOU'RE SO BEAUTIFUL.

I WANT TO FIND SOMEBODY WHO

COULD BE AS BEAUTIFUL AS

YOU.

Reporter: OVER TIME,

THEIR RELATIONSHIP GREW

CLOSER.

I KNEW SOMETHING THAT

CHANGED IN MY HEART.

WHEN I KNEW HE WAS COMING

OVER, AND I WANTED TO LOOK

REALLY GOOD WHEN HE GOT

THERE.

I FELT LIKE I WAS IN

CONTROL.

I FELT I COULD HAVE A

RELATIONSHIP WITH A YOUNG

GUY IN A CHURCH AND JUST

HELP HIM OUT.

AND I HAD NO REASON, YOU

KNOW, TO DOUBT HER LOVE FOR

ME.

I MEAN, WE WERE STILL

EXTREMELY INTIMATE WITH EACH

OTHER, WITH EACH OTHER, SO I

THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS

FINE.

Reporter: BUT AUDREY'S

DESIRE FOR THE OTHER MAN

GREW STRONGER.

OUR SHOULDERS WERE BUMP

OR HIS HAND WOULD TOUCH

MINE, AND I NOTICED THAT

REACTION, OH, THAT FELT GOOD

HE TOUCHED ME.

I REALLY TOLD MYSELF, I CAN

HAVE IT ALL.

THIS RELATIONSHIP WON'T

AFFECT THE REST OF MY LIFE.

I BEGAN TO NOTICE MYSELF

LYING SO I COULD BE ALONE

WITH HIM.

SO I JUST DOVE IN, AND I'M

JUST GOING TO DO THIS.

THAT'S WHEN OUR RELATIONSHIP

BECAME SEXUAL.

Reporter: THE AFFAIR

CONTINUED FOR THREE WEEKS.

I JUST LIED TO THE PEOPLE

I LOVE THE MOST IN ORDER TO

GET AWAY WITH THIS GUY AND

BE INAPPROPRIATE AND HAVE AN

AFFAIR.

THIS IS NOT ME.

Reporter: AUDREY

REALIZED SHE COULDN'T

CONTINUE LIVING THE DOUBLE

LIFE AND ENDED THE AFFAIR.

NOW SHE HAD TO TELL HER

HUSBAND OF 17 YEARS WHAT SHE

HAD DONE.

I WAS SCARED OUT OF MY

MIND.

IF IT CAME DOWN TO A CHOICE

WHO I WOULD CHOOSE, THERE

WAS NEVER A QUESTION IN MY

MIND I WANTED MY HUSBAND AND

MY KIDS.

I HAVEN'T CONFRONTED HIM IN

17 YEARS IN LITTLE THINGS,

AND THEN I'M GOING TO TELL

HIM THE MOST BETRAYING

THING.

I WHISPERED IN HIS EAR AND

SAID I SAW SOMETHING

EXTREMELY INAPPROPRIATE.

I SAW EXTREME RAGE AND

HATRED COME INTO HIS EYES.

THIS WASN'T JUST A LITTLE

MISTAKE.

IT WASN'T AN OOPS OR A

HICCUP.

I WANTED TO PUNCH HOLES IN

THE WALLS, SLAM DOORS,

EXPRESS ANGER AND RAGE.

I FELT SO MUCH SHAME AND

DEREGRET.

ALL I WANTED TO DO IS GET

HER FIXED.

SHE IS THE PROBLEM.

SHE HAD THE AFFAIR.

EVERY HAPPY MEMORY OF 17

YEARS OF MARRIAGE WAS GONE.

MY HEAD WAS SCREAMING WITH

WORDS, SHE DOESN'T LOVE

YOU.

SHE HAS NEVER LOVED YOU.

YOUR MARRIAGE HAS BEEN A

FARCE.

Reporter: BOB CALLED A

MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR WHO HAD

BEEN A GUEST ON THEIR

TELEVISION PROGRAM.

THE COUPLE FLEW TO PHOENIX

THE NEXT DAY.

HE STARTS WITH ME AND

RIPS ME UP ONE SIDE AND THE

OTHER.

HE SAID THIS TO ME, BOB,

YOU'RE LAZY.

I'VE GOT A DAILY CHRISTIAN

TELEVISION SHOW, I'M A

FATHER, I'M A PASTOR, AND

YOU CALL ME SPIRITUALLY

LAZY.

AND HE SAID, AUDREY,

ANYONE WHO DOES WHAT YOU DID

DOES NOT RESPECT THEIR

HUSBAND.

I WANT YOU TO GET ALONE WITH

GOD AND ASK HIM THE MOMENT

YOU STARTED DISRESPECTING

YOUR HUSBAND.

HE SAID, BOB, WHAT IS

DONE IS DONE.

WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS

WHETHER OR NOT YOU WILL

BECOME THE MAN OF GOD THAT

YOU NEED TO BE TO KEEP YOUR

FAMILY TOGETHER.

BEFORE YOU GO TO BED, YOU

WILL GET DOWN ON YOUR KNEES

AND YOU WILL PRAY WITH EACH

OTHER.

I CAN'T REMEMBER THE LAST

TIME WE HAD PRAYED WITH EACH

OTHER.

THE ONLY WORDS WE COULD GET

OUT WERE, GOD, WE NEED YOU.

AND WE CRIED AND WE CRIED.

EVERY PART OF OUR

RELATIONSHIP HAD TO COME TO

A NEW LEVEL OF

TRANSPARENCY.

ALL OF A SUDDEN THERE WAS NO

ROOM FOR ANY BIG SECRETS.

Reporter: BUT ONE BIG

SECRET WAS YET TO BE

REVEALED.

A FEW MONTHS LATER, THEY

RECEIVED NEWS FROM THE

DOCTOR, AUDREY WAS

PREGNANT.

I HAD HAD A VASECTOMY, SO

I KNEW IT WASN'T ME.

HE MUST HAVE SEEN THE FEAR

ALL OVER OUR FACES.

BECAUSE HE IMMEDIATELY

FOLLOWED THAT STATEMENT WITH

A QUESTION: DO YOU WANT TO

CONTINUE THE PREGNANCY?

AND I IMMEDIATELY ANSWERED

YES, WITHOUT A DOUBT.

I WAS SCARED OUT OF MY

MIND.

AND YET THAT WAS THE FIRST

MOMENT I FELT STRENGTH FROM

BOB.

BEFORE, EVERYTHING INSIDE

OF ME WANTED TO PUNISH HER.

NOW I RECOGNIZED THAT SHE IS

CARRYING A BABY, AND THAT

SHE NEEDED MY HELP.

THIS BABY IS GOING TO NEED

PARENTS.

I WANT TO BE THAT DAD.

Reporter: BOB AND

AUDREY RESIGNED FROM THEIR

POSITIONS, MOVED TO PHOENIX,

AND TOLD THEIR CHILDREN WHAT

WAS GOING ON.

WE KNEW IT WAS A BIRACIAL

SITUATION AND OUR CHILDREN

NEEDED TO KNOW.

I WAS SO SCARED THAT MY

KIDS WOULD BE MESSED UP.

BECAUSE I'M ONE OF THOSE

MOMS THAT I LOVE MY KIDS

MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF.

THEY WALKED IN SEEING A

MOM AND DAD ON THE FLOOR

CRYING.

I SPOKE TO THEM HOW I LOVED

THEM, AND WE'RE A FAMILY AND

WE BELONG TOGETHER.

AND I'M NOT GOING ANYWHERE.

AND WITH HER IN MY ARMS, I

LOOKED AT THEM AND SAID,

YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE A BABY

BROTHER.

Reporter: FIVE MONTHS

LATER, BOB AND AUDREY RUSHED

TO THE DELIVERY ROOM.

IT WAS ONE OF THE MOST

BEAUTIFUL DAYS OF MY LIFE.

THIS LITTLE BOY WAS NOTHING

BUT A GIFT, AN ABSOLUTE

GIFT.

WHEN OUR SON WAS BORN, I

GAVE HIM MY NAME, ROBERT.

MIDDLE NAME, THEODORE, AND

THEN WISENER, BECAUSE I

DON'T WANT MY SON TO EVERY

QUESTION ONE DAY IN HIS LIFE

WHO'S BOY HE IS.

THEODORE MEANS DIVINE GIFT.

Reporter: 10 YEARS

LATER, BOB AND AUDREY'S

MARRIAGE IS STRONGER THAN

EVER.

OUR RELATIONSHIP BECAME

DYNAMIC, LIKE IT HAD NEVER

BEEN BEFORE.

BECAUSE NOW I'M BEING HONEST

AND HE IS BEING HONEST.

THERE NEEDED TO BE A

TRANSPARENCY, AND A

VULNERABILITY, TO BE WILLING

TO BE KNOWN BY THE OTHER

PERSON.

THIS WAS NEW TERRITORY FOR

US.

IF YOU CAN GET THROUGH

THE FEARS THAT KEEP YOU FROM

COMMUNICATING, AND REALLY

START HAVING A RELATIONSHIP

WITH NO SECRETS, THERE IS

NOTHING MORE FUN THAN THAT.

OUR LITTLE ROBERT IS OUR NUT

CAKE.

HE IS SO MUCH FUN, SO FULL

OF PERSONALITY.

NEVER A DULL MOMENT, AND

THOSE THREE OLDER KIDS LOVE

HIM WITH EVERY PART OF THEIR

BEING.

IF YOU SEE THEM ALL

TOGETHER, THERE IS SO MUCH

LAUGHTER.

FOR THE EXTENT THAT I

HAVE EXPERIENCED HIS LOVE

AND HIS GRACE, I'M THE MOST

THANKFUL PERSON YOU'LL EVER

MEET.

I DON'T GET WHAT I

DESERVE BECAUSE OF WHAT HE

DID.

HE PAID THIS HIGH PRICE, TO

REALLY TAKE MY SIN, AND TO

REALLY TAKE MY SHAME.

AND BECAUSE HE LIVES INSIDE

OF ME, I DON'T GET WHAT I

DESERVE.

I GET WHAT HE DESERVES.

THAT'S AMAZING LOVE.