TEEN DATING
Time to Say Goodbye: Good Reasons
to Dump Him or Her
By Julie Ferwerda
CBN.com –
Author Julie Ferwerda identifies warning signs that
could indicate big trouble in your relationship.
1. You invite them to church—like every week—and
they always have a great (and believable) “reason”
for not going: “My pillow needs me…I have to wash
my hair…I have to study for my P.E. test…my parents
want me to go grocery shopping with them…I have to get ready
for work tomorrow…” You get the idea.
2. As far as they are concerned, parents (and authority figures)
fit into the same category as the furniture in granny’s
house: old and outdated.
3. If their *bleep conversations were *bleeping turned into a
*bleep prime time *bleep television show suitable for *bleep young
listeners, you’d *bleeping hear a lot of bleeping going
on.
4. Their idea of getting to know you goes something like this:
“Enough about me. Let’s talk about you. What do you
think of me?”
5. The grass across the fence must look greener because they
sure seem to notice every attractive thing that goes by. They
might even think wandering into other pastures to “enjoy
the grass” is acceptable.
6. When they talk about God, it usually precedes a four
letter word. You rarely (or never) catch them talking to God
or reading a Bible on their own.
7. They would rather eat a Fear Factor “dinner”
than have to hang out and eat one with your family.
8. They think try-before-you-buy is the only way to
“be sure” you are sexually compatible as a couple.
In fact, they “test drove” the last person(s) they
dated.
9. Telling you the truth is relative—it works when it’s
convenient for them and can be twisted a little bit here and there
when needed.
10. “Sorry” is a game they played as a kid and they
haven’t used the word much since (if any).
11. Watching the way they spend money, you have figured out where
the expression “sugar daddy” comes from.
12. Human Velcro comes to mind when you notice you can’t
even spend an evening apart without phone calls, text messages,
or them showing up where you tell them you’re going to be.
13. They have a constant need for speed. In their world, sitting
around talking, reading, taking in a sunset, or relaxing is for
boring nerds.
14. Reading the Bible, praying, or going to church together are
always your idea. They may say “yes” to get along
for now, but it wasn’t their idea and they’re not
really into it.
15. They sometimes use intimidation, anger, or punishing tactics
(like the silent treatment) to get what they want from you.
16. They are sarcastic, mean, or disrespectful to their family
members or they talk about them negatively around others.
17. Their idea of a good time involves using some form of chemicals.
They don’t know how to just get high on life.
18. They think it’s fun, entertaining and powerful to make
fun of people or teachers.
19. They can’t handle any kind of constructive criticism
from you, others, or God. They are their own boss and don’t
care what anyone else thinks.
Feeling guilty???…don’t know how
to end it because you feel bad about hurting someone? Next time
you are tempted to get into a relationship just to have someone
around or just because they asked you out (instead of getting
to know them first and finding out if they are someone worth dating
by God’s standards), remember how bad you felt having to
dump someone just because you got involved with them too soon.
Next time wait to date until you know they are someone
worth investing time and emotional energy on.
On the Net:
www.julieferwerda.com.
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